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About That Summer Bucket List

We rolled in from Michigan late last week, and by rolled, I mean after seven days on the road and four stops, I pulled in to the driveway with three obnoxious honks, pushed the magic minivan door button, and the entire contents of the Earth spilled out.

It feels good to be home. The intersection of post-summer-adventuring and pre-back-to-school always ignites a mad burst of nesting for me, aroused by being away from home for so long and scraping up all these little “living” inspirations we’ve collected on our travels–the way my sister’s cozy bathroom makes me feel at home, the way my dad’s entertaining makes me want to beef up my cheese plate game, the way the little home shops on Mackinac Island give me new ideas for my kids’ rooms or enjoying a big family dinner around my friend Tali’s table in Nashville makes me want to pour more nurturing and togetherness into our dinner routine.

While we’ve said our goodbyes to our beloved Michigan and transitioned back into our home routine, there’s one summer treasure I’ve committed to keeping around though…the Summer Bucket List.

It started as an enthusiastic attempt to celebrate the last day of school. While speakers blared Alice Cooper screaming “School’s Out for Summer!” and kids ran to get their bathing suits, I smoothed out a white paper roll, grabbed a fistful of markers and started to create the list I had no idea would inspire our summer fun as much as it did. Any simple summer pleasure I could think of–“twirl in a sundress,” “walk through a corn field,” “buy a tourist t-shirt,” “paint nails a summery pink”–I added to the list, sketching fun corresponding pictures next to the check-off box. A couple pieces of tape later, and it was hanging in the main area of our home where we’d see it every day, reminded on all the stir-crazy summer days when we’re running out of ideas that there’s a whole world of little pleasures just waiting to make us happy.

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When we left for Michigan, we took the list with us. It had gained significance as we realized those first few weeks of summer the role it was playing in guiding our adventures, so we referred to it as “The Holy Grail” and protected it with utmost care during the transfer to Michigan. “Put this in the ark of the covenant,” I instructed my cousin as I wrapped the roll in protective paper and handed it over for safe keeping on the road trip up. Once there, we found the perfect spot to display it–on a wall in my dad’s garden bunk house–and returned frequently to check off adventures we had “accomplished” and scan the list for more inspiration.

Because we took the time to write it on the list, we were a little more inspired to do spontaneous things like…

…pull over in the middle of nowhere to walk inside a corn field. Also known as “expose the kids to their first misdemeanor, trespassing.”

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…or hit up a small town ice cream parlor for evening double-dip cones.

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While the list wasn’t at all about creating pressure to check things off (Rule #1 of list-making–keep things simple!) and I made it a point to leave some things unchecked in the spirit of “the beauty of incomplete imperfection,” it did inspire us to enjoy some meaningful moments we might not have enjoyed otherwise. I had “lake swim at dusk” on the list and hadn’t checked it off near the end of our trip. I was going to let it go, but on one of the very last evenings in Michigan after the kids had fallen asleep (past dusk but I counted it), I thought “Do it, check it off”–grabbed a towel and flashlight and hollered to my dad, “I’m going for a swim.”

“At this time of night?” he asked.

“The most magical time to swim–it’s on the list, I’m checking it off.”

I’m so glad I did it because out there in the dark lake, floating alone on my back in the still water, I saw the stars like I’ve never seen them. I heard my heart as loud as it’s ever beat this year, and I felt the pulse of summer beating in perfect rhythm with my own. I memorized that feeling along with the pattern in the sky that night, the feeling of weightlessness, the intersection of complete peace in nature with the thrill of uncertainty–of not being able to see what’s around me. I swam underwater for as long as I could to make the satisfaction of coming up for deep breaths of summer night air even better, and when I had my fill, I climbed back on the dock, dried off and walked back to the cabin under the moon, stopping before climbing into bed only to pick up a marker and check that box off the summer bucket list.

The entire family had fun with the list:

“Mom, look! I caught this with my hand! This counts, right? We can cross it off the list!”

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…and there were many a slow day that prompted Lainey running to see if there was something on the list we could attempt–heading to the movie theater on a rainy afternoon (loved it, check.), completing a large puzzle (so much fun! check.), writing vacation post cards to friends and sending them off (keep snail mail alive! check.).

But really, the list was for me–another living reminder that, in every place and in every season, there are invitations to find, create and love all that life has to offer.

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Find the hidden bookstores nestled in Main Streets across the country.

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Stop at wildflower fields for pictures you’ll treasure later.

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Buy pretty handkerchiefs. Hang them to dry.

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Walk to the dock in your pajamas; sip coffee until it’s cold.

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This summer brought a few moments of sad nostalgia, watching my kids growing and changing against a summer landscape I’ve always associated with their littleness…

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…the dunes they were once too little to climb, so I carried them in a backpack…

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…the tree stump they used to have to hold my hand to climb.

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On one of the last days of our trip, it hit me that next year, our return to our summer Narnia and the petri dish where the most wonderful moments in the young golden period of motherhood for me have lived so favorably would be in a new season–with an official middle school student and my baby prepped for kindergarten. The spirit of this bucket list reminds me that it isn’t their littleness that makes me happy. It isn’t Michigan or summer or having a kid who still totes stuffed animals on our adventures (although, that’s perfectly lovely and heck yes, I get joy out of it)…

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It’s ME that makes me happy. It’s loving the season I’m in. It’s realizing that joy and all the simple pleasures of life that inspire me are not confined to specific seasons.

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Which is why the Summer Bucket List lives on this year, now taking the form of “Weekly Bucket”–a list of simple pleasures that will inspire our week.

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(You can find our hanging paper roll here)

And before we completely transition into a new season, a little more from our summer…

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On our last week in Michigan, my dad told me about a place he had heard of–some Wild West town a man had created, inspired by his love of John Wayne. “I bet Dash would love it,” he said. I put the address in my GPS, packed up the kids and drove out to find it–like 2-tracked in the middle of nowhere. The result? Such a fun adventure.

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It’s called Coopersville–completely free (donation-based), and there wasn’t a soul there on our visit–just me and the kids, walking through the saloon…

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…playing Cops & Robbers in the jail…

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…and hoppin’ on the stage coach for a quick getaway.

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Everywhere we turned, there was another building to explore, completely set up like John Wayne just stepped out for a moment.

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Dash loved the handcuffs.

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(she’s skeptical of the gun shots we heard in the distance…hunters, I’m guessing…or the ghosts of cowboys.)

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And we couldn’t leave Michigan without a visit to our favorite little town, Glen Arbor and Sleeping Bear Dunes.

Watching the kids spit cherries from the wine tasting deck:

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Bay Lavender Trading Company gardens:

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From a Glen Arbor beach (this dog introduced himself by grabbing one of my kids’ stuffed animals and BOOKING across the beach with it):

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Those dunes though. We came later than we usually do and discovered that’s the way to do it–with the sun setting across the lake. It was breathtaking.

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We stayed for over four hours. I even offered for us all to go get ice cream, but the kids didn’t want to leave. They did nothing but climb and jump, climb and jump, climb and jump.

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And the amount of sand we collected stayed with us for days.

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Dash wiped out once, rolling down the hill, thought it was the funniest thing ever and then repeated the move about a hundred more times.

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We ended our trip with a pontoon breakfast ride–a full pancake breakfast buffet with orange juice and coffee. Almost skipped it, but it was on the list and we went for it.

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So glad we did.

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Honorable mention for the unchecked items this year:

__  Buy corn from a Midwest farm stand.

__  Go Tubing (can’t do it all, and that’s fine).

__  Cracker Barrel Breakfast (needed some fun to take home–we’ll hopefully do it this week before school starts)

__  Family Slide Show with Old Pictures (still time–we’ve got this)

Everything we’ve loved about summer? It won’t end. Because all those joys are buried in other places throughout the year, waiting for us to discover it.

“August has passed, and yet summer continues by force to grow days. They sprout secretly between the chapters of the year, covertly included between its pages.” ―Jonathan Safran Foer

A knotty-pine lodge bar Cheers! to that.

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  1. This post!! This is one of my favorites ♥ Dash heading out over the dunes to an endless sea…oh my goodness. Absolute delight! Kelle I just loved this post!!! Wonderful memories that your children are going to look back and say “We lived a rich childhood, full of adventures” and thank you for it.

  2. Beautiful. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post.

  3. Beautiful sentiments, worded perfectly. I love this post and will refer back to it! Thanks for sharing!

  4. Oh, my…that Coopersville Wild West town. Simply Amazing! The whole trip in pictures was stunning. I told you, I get excited for your Summer in Michigan as much as you do…lol. Always such dreamy posts. And making the trip home alone, with three kids…you’re my idol. xo

  5. You’ve inspired me to take a Michigan trip in mid September from our home in Ohio. I think I’ll make a bucket list too. We’re going to Frankenmuth first then on to Mackinac island. I can’t wait! Thanks for sharing your adventures.

  6. Your photos are great!
    Amazing blog x
    -Daria
    https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/daria-edu-19010657
    http://dariaed.com/

  7. WOW is all I can say! Your babies are going to look so fondly on these memories!! I’m so inspired to create epic bucket lists as well as weekly ones. Thank you :)

    http://www.thedashin-between.com

  8. I have been thinking this thought about your blog and your family for a few months now and this post seems a good time to share.
    I’ve wondered whether the blog will withstand your children aging but didn’t want to express that exactly as it can be so sad….Our girls are 10, 13 and 16 and well…family vacations just aren’t what they used to be :-( The week of bliss is whittled down to only three days due to camps and volleyball tryouts. The huge group that used to gather are now all in college or working “grown-up” jobs with minimal time off. No more cousins to send into Lake Michigan with them—big sisters who think it’s too chilly or too “not cool” or whatever to join the 10 year old in the lake, leaving lots of “Mommy won’t YOU come in with me?!?” I try to teach them all the time that “different is OK” but man I am not always the best example of living that!
    All this to say that it has occurred to me that once your kids don’t want to be in the blog and there are no preschoolers left for you to take adorable pictures of I sure do hope that you keep up all this good work!!! I think your photography alone is super inspiring and I bet you can still make us laugh even if the stories are only about you and Brett and the dogs :-)
    Reading this post made me think that you know exactly where you are coming from and I can rest assured that you will continue to share your light with all of us!
    Thanks for that.
    Julie A.

    • I certainly hope my work changes as I do. This space isn’t what it was five years ago…and that’s a good thing. So I’m sure it won’t be what it is now five years from now…and that’s a good thing. :o) What I hope always remains in everything I do in and outside of the blog is a reflection of what I love…”enjoying the small things”.

  9. 2 fun kid friendly old-timey cute and so funny Westerns for your kids:
    Hot Lead and Cold Feet (Don Knotts!)
    Support Your Local Sherrif (James Garner!)
    Warning; the Hot Lead and Cold Feet tune will be stuck in your head for YEARS! But in a good way!

  10. I’m a long time reader. You have inspired me to create our own family bucket list for the remainder of our summer! We live in NJ and my kids don’t go back until 9/11 this year, so we still have a good chunk of summer left that we are spending at the Jersey shore. Our first few days of transition from busy summer schedule at home to relaxing at the shore didn’t go so well, but we had such a great time creating our list tonight. I can’t wait. Thank you for sharing!

  11. Ok so I adore your blog-writing- and your heart to inspire and to love. I have been along time reader. I had to comment this post as I believe that the picture of ” trespassing”, got to me. As a daughter of a farmer ( peaches)….. I find this picture of you showing the fam. trespassing as light —- it is in fact not. A Farmer has so many bills to pay and mouths to feed. Taking your family to an area that is has signage is showing disrespect. It as well a poor example to your family that it is ok to trespass and to not follow rules. My Father has signage on his property for those to stay out for other reasons than to pick ( steal) fruit. Trespassing means that work done to pick fruit is disrupted ( levies that are made so irrigation water stays inside rather than destroying neighborhoods property), many have trampled on these and water escapes and seeks to others land. The trees (produce) might have been recently sprayed with a pesticide— meaning the trespass individuals might come to harm whilst trespassing. I just shake my head to those who break the laws/rules to think it “cute” to walk onto others property. Property the farmer pays taxes for just like any body ( I wouldn’t ever think about doing this— to any other farmer or to a homeowner ( any homeowner would think this rude)…. why do others think it ok to trespass onto fields and farms? Just saying. I just want others to know that if asked farmers would be glad to share knowledge -fruit-and city kids the chance to romp about on their lands if asked and if the fields were safe at the time to do so.

  12. This post arrived at the perfect time for me….thank you for reminding me to love the season we’re in. XO

  13. Carrie davis says:

    Love the weekly bucket list…order that cute paper roll today!!!

  14. Beautiful

    xo

  15. Our family created a similar “Summer Bucket List”, and I absolutely loved it. Just like you, some went unchecked but many were crossed off. I felt like we soaked up as much fun and togetherness we could out of summer. It still remains up on our wall even though the kids went back to school this week. Hoping we can transition it to a “Fall Bucket List”. Get’s me thinking about homemade cider, apple picking, football games…

  16. These are such beautiful, powerful images, Kelle! Would you do a post some time about your editing process… do you use Photoshop or Lightroom, your favorite actions, etc. I know I’d love to know! I wish my vacation pictures turned out like these!! Thanks!

  17. I get so much inspiration from you. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I’m going to steal the weekly bucket but do it secretly in my journal because I am addicted to small, happy surprises for my kids! 😉

  18. I like the idea of putting up a bucket list. I always have so many plans in my head of what I’d like to accomplish with the kids in our summer months, but then life does it’s thing and before I know it, I’m at the final two weeks of summer and I realize that we hardly did anything that I wanted to do. And this could definitely be avoided if there was a LIST handing for us all to see. Because you know kids. They see it, they’ll ask, and nag, and nag, until you do it. And sometimes that can be a good thing!

  19. Mollie Kelly says:

    Beautifully written…like living a lovely, idyllic dream! Heartwarming!

  20. Krystal Verstraete says:

    This post made me sob out loud. My goodness you live life so beautifully. You find the inspiration in everything, and we find it in you. Thank you.

  21. I so love the idea of your bucket list and posting it big and long and using it as a guide. I’ve just added one of your things to my (unwritten) summer bucket list — to swim in the dark, under the stars at my own Otsego Lake, not far from where you summered. I don’t think I’ve ever done it before, and why not? But the sky is inky black with pinpricks of stars. Now I must.

    I’m glad you had a wonderful time on your holiday and glad, too, that you are home safely, ready to take on the next challenge or joy that life brings! Thanks for taking us along. (Good memories about those dunes!)

    • YES! I’ve driven by Otsego Lake. Do it. You won’t regret it…preferably in the coming month because I imagine lying on your back in Otsego Lake in the dark in November isn’t the loveliest of experiences. ;o)

  22. I love this so much. As summer comes to an end for us (not quite yet – our kids don’t go back till the day after Labor Day) I’ve been feeling really sad, but I’ve also been thinking of your, “There Is More” post from the winter, because it resonated with me in such a profound way. I get so panicky at the conclusion of something special, and I was terrified of my first baby growing up too quickly from his very first weeks (although I’m sure some of that was postpartum hormones as well). Thank you for this much-needed reminder that the joy comes from within me; I have the power to make and find more magic, and that there’s beauty at every age of our children’s lives.

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