If you’ve been a reader here for long, you know I have a thing with bucket lists. Writing down things I want to do makes me more excited to accomplish them and creates some accountability to check them off. My seasonal bucket lists have become a part of our family traditions, and while we are really good about not getting bent out of shape if we don’t get everything checked off (they’re for fun, not pressure), we really do end up attempting a lot more fun things we might not have remembered to do had we not written them down. I turn 40 at the end of the year, and naturally have created a personal bucket list of things I want to get done or try with the turn of this new decade. I thought I’d share a few of them here today. I have more family and mom-related ones, but these are just for me.
- Get a full physical, mammogram, blood work, pap smear–and then schedule next year’s appointments. I’ve worked really hard these past two years to make health a priority–to be more conscious of what I ingest and to consistently challenge my body physically to stay in shape. I’m due for some doctor appointments though, and I want to hit 40 with the peace of mind that my health is in tip-top shape.
- Teeth cleaning I’m the WORST with dentist appointments. I hate them. Mainly because it feels like every time I’ve ever gone in for a cleaning, they tell me I have a cavity.
- Run a Half Marathon (scheduled for April). I don’t think I’m one of those people who’s going to love it and want to sign up for another one when I’m done. I like working out, not running. But I want to train for something, and I want to follow through on something that’s hard.
- Signature scent–Get rid of perfumes I don’t really love but look pretty on my tray, and own that signature scent. I did this last week–passed along those “place holder” perfumes that aren’t my favorite but kept because they filled space and were something to spray in the morning. And I bought my favorite scent, Le Labo Santal 33. I am bewitched by this scent (one of the only scents I can smell on myself all day), but always end up settling for cheaper fill-ins. I do have one other not-so-pricey scent I use that I keep in my purse–Auric Blends Love Oil to help space out when I splurge on Le Labo. But if feels good to have it narrowed down to two. We tease my cousin because she has long proclaimed her love for the morbid idea that when she dies, her kids will forever smell the one perfume she’s worn for years and remember her, and I’m not going to lie–I like the idea. But that brings me to a whole other question….do you wear your perfume because it’s your favorite scent or because it’s your husband’s favorite? Brett “approved” Le Labo (in Brett terminology, this looks like: (sniff) “Yeah. It’s nice.“), but I wear it mainly because I feel like it represents my personality (can a perfume do that?). We are getting way off track here–back to the bucket list.
- Hire a house cleaner. I haven’t had someone professionally clean my house in probably over 5 years, and the last time I did was a one-time deal. I always have a hard time justifying this because I see so many other areas where this money could go, but I think sanity and ease of living might be worth it.
- Launch an online course. This one is done now, but I included it because it was part of my Before-I-turn-40 goals. I’m on my fifth course now (Hello, Framed! Friends!) and loving it. I didn’t know how to launch an online course and knew it included things I wasn’t sure how to do, so it took finding people who are good at it and hiring them. An important lesson for 40 and beyond: Collaborate. Figure it out. Hire people. Don’t let not knowing how to do something or being intimidated by what it will involve keep you from pursuing it. Take the first step, and it will lead to the second one. Get ‘er done.
- Second book proposal. That baby you had that kept you busy is in kindergarten now. It’s time.
- No phone in the morning, no phone at night. I am working on this one now. Book-ending my day with no technology. First hour of the day is coffee and candle light and Chet Baker and reading and writing and breakfast and art and basically anything that doesn’t involve my phone. Same for last hour of the day. This is hard, especially the last hour of the day. I like to scroll and pop in and use the excuse of “I’m working.” But I’m committed to my goal, so I will get there.
- Junk the crappy undergarments. You’re almost 40. You earned the right to wear some decent bras and underwear. Dump every junky thread-bare, ill-fitting thing in your drawer and start from scratch if you have to. I have done my research, read all the Internet polls on best strapless, best t-shirt bra, best underwear, etc. and we are in the testing phase right now. I’ve ordered several different bras and underwear, and I promise to report back on the final selections. I feel like such a grown-up!
- Rent a classic convertible. It’s a silly one, but I have wanted to do this for a long time. Tie a scarf in my hair, slip on a big pair of sunglasses, blare the radio and cruise for half a day.
Anyone turning a new decade this year? Any bucket list items you’re excited to share? I’ve had so many friends tell me that the best thing about turning 40 is that all those years of caring what people think shift into a new mindset of freedom and owning who you are. Heidi calls it “Zerofucks 40.” I’m excited to embrace a new decade…there is so much more in store.