It is good to be home.
I’ve been popping Vitamin C, drumming my fingertips against my aching cheekbones and chanting anti-sickness declarations like they really work.
I feel good. I feel energized. Dammit, I’m not getting sick.
In a tranquil moment to myself this morning, I slunk beneath the water line in my bath until the surface of the warm water grazed my shoulders. I flipped a few pages into my Real Simple magazine and stopped at a stunning image on page 6. The photo is appropriately real simple–a cherubic toddler curled against the bare skin of his mama and her arm wrapped protectively around him–but the emotion conveyed is deep. An Agatha Christie quote is typed beneath it: “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”
I love the last part–“crushes remorselessly.” So badass, so fierce and yet an emotion present the moment we flip that stick over to find two pink lines. I love that this love and passion is not earned. We don’t have to do anything to get it. It’s just there the minute we know there is another life to love…instincts.
I rely on instincts a lot–maybe more than I should. But I’ve found the most valuable truths I’ve used in guiding my parenting choices are not snippets I’ve highlighted in books or pieces of advice passed along from more seasoned mamas. It’s the nuggets of truth that dwell within–things I didn’t even know I knew. I know how to love my kids. I know what they need, and for every chapter I’ve read about the five S’s of calming a baby? They’ve got nothing on the natural rhythm of my body that instinctively rocks and sways and soothes my girls into a sleepy trance.
There is a certain confidence you acquire when you discover your instincts are worth trusting. This comes in handy with Nella’s specific needs.
I will always be challenged to ensure I’m doing my part–reading the research, scheduling the appointments, utilizing the resources available to us. Sometimes I feel guilty for passing up driving three hours to hear the latest guru lecture on speech therapy techniques for Down syndrome or for reading Real Simple in the bathtub as opposed to another chapter of my Gross Motor Skills in Children with Down Syndrome book. But regardless of how many new sign language words we’ve learned or what new flash cards we’ve introduced this week, there is the constant presence of instinctive parenting, and that is the most powerful force in creating two little people who will be smart, kind, creative beings.
I believe in Early Intervention. I’d lobby on the White House steps for more funding and education and programs that will give my child an advantage. I love to watch the progress of Nella’s physical therapy and I look forward to hearing Lainey’s kindergarden stories of vowel sounds and sentence structure. But I find the most comfort and hope in the fact that at the end of the day, I am the mama. Not therapists or teachers or child-rearing gurus. And joined by our village of loved ones, our children will thrive.
Special needs is so less daunting with this truth.
We are working to initiate speech and occupational therapy visits but in the meantime, with a little help from a nurturing big sister, Nella has mastered drinking from a cup on her own, is beginning to maneuver forks and spoons in and out of her mouth, and can hold a crayon, a marker or a piece of sidewalk chalk like nobody’s business.
We continue the cycle of high expectations, hard work, lots of love, and gratitude for every milestone each of our children make.
With that short sermon out of the way, I’ll move on.
While there has been an obvious decrescendo in events the past couple days, my body is welcoming the lull in activity. I crave the sound of beach waves, some aromatherapy oils and a muscled man with strong hands thumbing the knots out of my right shoulder but am grateful for the close second of a glass of wine and the calming entertainment of watching my family swim at sunset last night.
Left: Sister notices wine; Right: Sister makes move for wine.
Perhaps in some attempt to maintain the festivite atmosphere of the past two weeks, I went all out last night for dinner.
Toast smeared with brie and fig paste, overpriced but sweet and tasty blueberries.
And one of my favorite desserts. My dad used to make it for me when I’d come home from college:
Easy Strawberry Shortcake: Jiffy Buttermilk Biscuit Mix with 1/2 cup water and 2 tbsp. sugar. Bake on greased cookie sheet in one big lump in the middle. Cut into quarters (takes a scone appearance), butter, top with sugared strawberries and whipped cream.
So I sip and I eat and I watch my loves.
And while yes, babies with Down syndrome have extra cuddle appeal with low muscle tone and a melt-you-into-puddles almond-eyed smile, I have to laugh at the stereotype of “always happy” babies. You should see her drama. Admit Evidence A: She wanted me and I swam away.
She can throw herself into an Academy Award-winning meltdown in a New York minute.
Speaking of, I miss New York.
Moving on.
Next week is the big sister’s party.
There will be a waterin’ hole. And panning for gold. Hence the hour I spent in the side yard today spray painting and glittering pea gravel.
Add a kiddie pool and a few pie pan sieves, and I think it will be fun. Have I said how happy my kids’ parties make me? I’ll say it again: my kid’s parties make me insanely happy.
Four years of trusting my instincts, and I am stronger, surer, and more capable.
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A bit more chaos is added to our house this week as our playroom/office is getting some new walls.
…and while we put up walls in our home, we tear them down everywhere else.
With all that said, do you know how many baby showers I’ve been to where I’ve had to quickly come up with my best advice to a new mama and write it down on an index card? Never having time to think, I write the predictable. Get some sleep. Enjoy it. Take tons of pictures.
You know what? I have a well thought-out answer now. I know the best advice to write on the next card.
You have everything it takes. You just don’t know it yet. Whenever you feel exhausted, confused, incapable or at your wit’s end…look within. Trust your instincts.
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Sinking back in to the pleasures of home.
Enjoy the rest of your week!
(p.s. I’m very behind in my e-mail after traveling. If you’ve e-mailed and I haven’t responded, I’m catching up. Thank you for your patience!)
elizalouise.bell says
You have the best life. My spirits are lifted after I read about Nella and Lainey everyday. I love you guys.
Megan says
Loved this post! Love the pictures, and the smiles and the ordinary moments for you. Your Nella is accomplishing so much!
Megan says
Oh, and I think the panning for gold activity is BRILLIANT! I loved that as a kid!
jenrobburton says
Love, love, love the pictures of Lainey and Nella with their babydolls. It’s amazing how much the little ones mimic what siblings and parents do. Amazing how so much of their learning takes place that way.
I am certainly no expert, but having a son about a month older than Nella as a guide, she seems like she’s totally rocking a lot of the normal milestones for that age, which must be fun to watch.
I am trying not to worry that my boy is a bit behind in the language despite doing “all the things” you’re supposed to do. Might take him for some testing soon, if for no other reason than to ease my mind. Everyone says that when he starts really talking, it’ll just be in full sentences.
Look forward to seeing what all you’ve cooked up for Lainey’s party. I think in all that SPARE time you have, you should start a kids’ party business. They look like so much fun! :o)
Shauna says
Yep. Mama instincts are invaluable. God gave us what we need to love our babies and keep them safe. Now can you come and photograph my life so that it looks as pretty as yours does 🙂
Mama Mandy says
Can we be friends?
♡ Ambrosia says
WOW…your writing reaches in and tugs on the heart strings every.single.time. I enjoy your blog so much…your pictures are so wonderful and you are so in tune with your words. Have fun with ‘big sisters’ party. I;ll bet it will be a blast for all of you!
Holly says
Kudos to you, Mama Kelle. You know things that much older mamas don’t. God bless you, sweetie. Keep up the instinctual mothering. Your girls are so beautiful.
Lisa says
I so look forward to your updates. It’s so rainy and gray here…seeing your sun-shiney pictures lift my spirits! If I wasn’t so scared of moving away from family, I’d pick up and go somewhere with nicer weather. I’ll just continue to live vicariously. 🙂 You do inspire me to find the “happies” even in this dreary weather…thank you!
Katie (Mama May I) says
Saw that photo and quote in Real Simple a few days ago. Loved it! I also love your new and profound and real advice to mama’s-to-be. As a mama of four years, I’ll tuck that advice into my back pocket too.
The Little House That Grew says
You help me love mine better with each post you share. I want to be your neighbor and come to your parties and be in your pictures..not in a creepy way..just be part of your joy way!!
Lisa
AllisonKathleen says
I truly wish someone had told me your bit of advice at my baby shower. Here i am with a 9 week old preemie, and I’ve come to realize that I can tell what’s best for him faster than anyone (doctors included).
Kate says
I always love your posts and pictures, but really love the ones of you, holding Nella, taking a picture, and carrying a glass of wine. Nothing says Momma like the ability to do anything while holding a wee one.
Kimberlee says
I am so glad to know that I am not the only one that throws the Gross Motor Skills book to the side for the sake of something more fun like Real Simple. Validation, baby. I needed that.
Hazel says
Beautiful photos- as expected- as an older sister of a brother who had “special needs” I think all his therapists told my parents that being 1 of 5 children was some of the best therapy for a little boy with autism (later called Asperger’s). Lainey, Austyn and Brandyn will all play a big part in Nella’s life. They already have. But I think you’ve got the balance pretty right!
Love Nella the drama queen!
Can’t wait to see your new room take shape!
Erin says
The photo of Nella with the babydoll melted my heart!
My mom gave me some “trust your instincts” advice on the card she gave me on my wedding day. It said, “Lots of people will give you lots of advice, but you will find your own way.” I find that it applies just about anywhere in my life, including being a mama!
Erin says
I love that you have naked babydolls. They cover most surfaces of my house. Occasionally they get dressed in various articles of clothing. But for the most part all are naked. All little girls are the same. I love it.
{{{Kelly}}} XtOphY Design Studio says
I had a particularly bad day today…..thus my “Forget You” post….which, now I am wondering if I should delete 🙂 Your pictures of your girls always make me smile, and I absolutely love reading your blog! Thanks for inspiring so many people….<3
Always on the clock says
Word!
Lainey looks so grown up in these pics! Nella is so expressive – love it!
Dani and Jeff says
this just made my day 🙂 There is nothing more real and beautiful than the love a mother has for their child. It is unexplainable. I thank God everyday for allowing me to have such an amazing gift. Your words are so beautiful, thank you for sharing
FEAS613 says
It’s all about the coming home! :::sigh!:::
I bet it’s nice to just be home after all your plane hopping and activity!
I hope you got to at least see the sunset tonight! It was stunning! I’m hoping to hit the beach tomorrow night for a special encore presentation! I’m keeping my fingers crossed!!
~Beth
Maria says
Love sinking back into the pleasures of home. In fact, for me, the best part of going away is returning home. Sacred space, baby!
P.S. I can say with confidence that, after almost 16 months, Nella is still the most beautiful baby I’ve ever seen. Lainey, too, without exception. Beautiful, lucky children.
Katy says
Love this post and love Laineys green striped shirt with the hood 🙂
Jannice says
No matter how nice it is to be away – coming back to enjoy the simple but amazing things with your family is the best!! It sounds like Nella is doing amazing! You know, reading your blog and looking at your beautiful pictures, as an outsider, you just don’t see the things like late development or challenges – you just see two beautiful loving sister and their beautiful momma! Lainey seems to be amazing with her little sister. Those two are going to have some bond!
The party ideas look awesome!
Kat says
Trust your instincts, is wise advice!
I have 4 little ones and I totally agree with it.
Gorgeous pics, words and sentiments as always.
Suzanne says
Kelle, seeing how Nella is growing is amazing. I had a dream last night about holding a little girl with down’s syndrome…she was so beautiful, as is your Nella!
I spent 4 hours with special needs kids today and I am in awe of how wonderful they are. They’ve stolen my heart, like I know Nella has stolen yours.
Beautiful pictures! 🙂
Life with Kaishon says
Your dinner looks scrumptious.
And so does your love : )
Erin says
Perfect timing for this post! My baby has had cold symptoms mixed with tons of drool. He has cut 12 teeth and never been a drooler. I just knew something was wrong with him. After a wasted trip to the ER I took him to the pediatrician to find out he has Hand, Foot, & Mouth Disease. The drool? It’s painful for him to swallow and that’s why he’s drooling! I learned this week to trust my own instincts.
Nella cuddling that baby doll is so precious!
KWQR says
So beautifully said… trusting our own instincts are one of the most important tools for a mama to have.
My favorite pics:
*Nella loving her babydoll
*Daddy painting nails
*and good gracious your babies are growing so fast… love their whisps of blond blowing in the wind
Your advice to new mamas is spot on… brought a tear to my eye thinking of how much I wish there had been someone to whisper that in my ear on the day I became a mama.
Big love,
Kate
Tracy says
love the picture of Brett painting Lainey’s nails. that just melts my heart.
Gosfam says
I love Real Simple magazine, what a great quote. I know I feel I say the same things when I comment, but I love reading your blog. Your pictures are always beautiful. I want a camera like yours, and your beautiful touch you seem to add.
Mary-Cate says
Real Simple is one of my favourite magazines and what a powerful quote, love it! I LOVE the birthday party idea! I’m not creative, and the thought of planning one for him in the future (he’s 7 months) makes me nervous! Love your girls… their wispy blonde hair is just delightful. Oh, & your meals are right up my alley 🙂 xx
Monique says
LOVE everything about this post, one of my favourites! Tugged on all my heart strings…beautiful photos-you really know how to capture those moments!!!
LOVE your Mama advice “You have everything it takes. You just don’t know it yet. Whenever you feel exhausted, confused, incapable or at your wit’s end…look within. Trust your instincts” I am not a new Mama…my littles are 10 and 6 (and I WAS at my wits end with my older one today!!!)…but I will write this advice on an index card and put it on my fridge to remind myself that I DO have everything it takes & to trust my instincts!! Thank you Kelle for sharing your words, your talented photography, your family and your LOVE for the simple joys in life.
Looking forward to Lainey’s party adventures…I too LOVE my kids parties!! Your spray painting & glittering pea gravel reminded me of my son’s 5 year old Knights & Princesses party where I sprayed & glittered large rocks and hid them in the near by park as the king’s lost gold. The Knights & Princesses had to find the gold and then exchange them for goodies…creating memories, magical memories full of love!! That makes me insanely happy!!!
More happy days to you…
Cheers!
Monique
dig this chick says
Sipping wine poolside is a brilliant way to come down after a vacation. Two wonderful worlds, many memories coming.
Love:
But regardless of how many new sign language words we’ve learned or what new flash cards we’ve introduced this week, there is the constant presence of instinctive parenting, and that is the most powerful force in creating two little people who will be smart, kind, creative beings.
yep.
x
Katrina says
That photo of Nella cuddling the baby….is way too precious for words.
Angela says
OK — when did Lainey’s hair get so long??? It’s beautiful!
And I am all too familiar with the drama queen that you describe in Nella. My Casey who is 7 has such the ‘tude that she is the one who wears the pants in this family! Much to my husband’s chagrin! (Of course, he’s more wrapped around her finger than any of us!:) People tell me how ‘sweet and loving kids with DS are” while my Casey Jane is bossing her older brother around like nobody’s business. I am dreading the teen years! 🙂
Can’t wait to see pics and hear about Lainey’s party!
Angela
Emily P says
First I can’t believe how mature Lainey is looking! Big Sister indeed:0) Second, that dessert looks amazing! I’m in love with Strawberry Shortcakes!! i’ll have to give it a try:0) Happy Thursday!!
Kate says
As a Speech Therapist and a mama of two – I loved every bit of this post. Being a mom makes me so much more capable of encouraging my patients and clients that they know their loved ones the best. We have fantastic tools and education to help facilitate progress and learning but nothing replaces the instincts of those who know my patients the best -whether they are 1 year old or 99 years old. Thanks for sharing.
Kelly Cach says
How is it possible to fall in love more intensely day after day? I can’t help it. I’m so in love with Nora and all that it means to be her. “Instinct” is right.
I loved this post….so very much.
Much love,
Kelly
p.s. Painting her nails……LOVE!
The melt down……that pic made me tear up. Nora had her first TODAY! (I admit, I kinda thought it was cute…..uh oh!)
Laura says
Special needs IS so less daunting with that truth.
Amen, sister!
Jen says
I too am a big believer in trusting your inner voice. When I became a new mom I was left in awe at that new understanding. I really enjoy your blog. When I first found it, I was surprised that “my songs” kept playing. When another favorite played, I turned to my husband and said “who is this girl?” Sometimes I open your blog just for the playlist.
I love seeing your adventures in Florida. One day I hope to find adventure similar to yours in a state that I haven’t lived my entire life. I just need to figure out where and why.
KS Photography says
wonderful. it’s so refreshing to hear (read) a mother talk (write) about instincts. God-given inspiration the moment we need it. while it’s nice having read some books to be more prepared for babies/children I agree that it all takes a back seat to motherly instinct. love the quote, too.
Elishia and Belinda says
Beautiful! Your post was so inspiring! I have my first little one (boy) on the way and so reading about those who live and love their children despite the challenges is so encouraging! Thanks for sharing. Oh and your children are adorable!
Bellaxx
http://www.bybande.blogspot.com
Sian says
You are so right. When I had my first child I didn’t trust myself at all. I wanted books, advice, rules to follow, anything. I thought how can I be in charge of this babies life? The health visitor said ‘Sian, there has never been and never will be another Isaac. You have been with him from the moment he was born and you are his mother. Whether you believe it yet, you know him better than anyone else and you know what he needs. Trust your self and you cant go wrong.’ She was right. When I had my second baby I threw away all my baby books talking about routine etc that made me feel guilty and went with my instincts. Now when ever a new Mama asked me for advice I say the same thing. You know your baby best trust yourself. (that and sleep when ever you can ha!) Beautiful post thank you xxx
DeAnn says
I am also a big believer in following your instincts when it comes to parenting, and in treating my children with the same respect that I would like in return from them. It’s amazing how peaceful and enjoyable raising children can be by just following these two simple steps. <3
Real men paint tiny nails, ‘nuf said! When my dh paints he uses a speed dry top coat and a quick blast from the hairdryer to have them up and running in no time. 😉
Praying you stay well, keep popping the Vit. C. 🙂
Ashley J. says
“You have everything it takes. You just don’t know it yet. Whenever you feel exhausted, confused, incapable or at your wit’s end…look within. Trust your instincts.”
Now my nose is getting tingly and my eyes are wattering… It wasn’t to me, but I needed to hear that SO bad.
We just found out our daughter has a sensory disorder. Nothing too serious, but it is a challenge. At the age of 34 months, she’s speaking at the level of a 13 month old, and feels rarely anything but frustration and anger.
I think I’ll print that out as a quote from you, and frame it so I can read it when times get hard.
I enjoy your posts so much. I look forward to them every day! Thank you so much for this glimpse into your lives.
Ky says
Magical, magical photos.
Marilynn Raatz says
I love your blog. I also love your pink flats. Would you be willing tell me what brand they are?
Snippets says
“Four years of trusting my instincts, and I am stronger, surer, and more capable.” – and so is she, for the very same reason that you trust your instincts with her.
I love this post. I can’t wait to be a mother and feel the fierce love and have that guiding intuition.
Alie says
I love the interactions and love between your girls, between you all. It is so evident in the photos. Thanks for the uplifting read this morning!
Happiness is... says
“I am the mama” – Amen Sister!
So true that God gives us the wonderful skills that are seeded deep in our souls, in our hearts, and in our minds. It just takes a child to water that seed. Let it flourish and let it bloom. Trust your inside Mama always.
So glad that you’re home.
-Jennifer from Annapolis
Sheebies says
Thank you for letting the rest of us “peek in” on your wonderful life with your gorgeous family. Your words are uplifting, real, funny and relevant.
The girls are just adorable!!! How blessed you are. Bliss!
Sandy says
What a great little bit of advice. So very true.
sweetnektar says
Haha, Kelle, I had to laugh out loud at the bit about reading your Simple magazine instead of Gross Motor for kids with DS. I bought that book when Ruby was born and I think I read about 2 lines….and yes, I think I ended up reading whatever design magazine or tabloid was popular in Dubai at the time (where we lived when Rubes was born). Totally agree on the instincts bit. So true…..it’s in all of us and we just need to trust it more. My Ruby has learned more from just experiencing every day life packed full of all life has to offer than she ever did from PT or OT for that matter. Our therapy has been largely based on music, movement, repetition, and inclusion. Very go with the flow type of attitude….
Love the pic of Nella hugging her doll….very sweet. Oh, and I totally get the “always happy” comment….Drama Queens DO live in this house!! lol
Neena says
Your blog is where I go when I need a smile and a bit of perspective. I adore you, your girls, and your beautiful words.
April Vernon says
One of my favorite posts ever. I haven’t heard that version of “Just Like Heaven” before, and it is weird how something so calm & peaceful can make my heart race b/c I love it so much. Perfect song for this meaningful post. My fave pic is the one of Lainey pushing Nella in the swing with the wind blowing their hair. Beautiful.
julia says
I’m so glad I’ve never had to fill out an “advice” card. There are some things that you definitely have to deal with straight from instinct, like giving an immediate “no” when a 13 year old wanders over to the push-up bras.
Kathryn says
I saw a public service announcement on FB about skin cancer and what would you say to your 16 year old self – made me wonder if the person who developed it was a fan of ‘Enjoying the Small Things’ – that was one of my favorite comment sections of any post you’ve had.
This one though – this one has so much strength and power within its words, you go girl!
Trini says
Nella and Lainey. Are. So. Cute!
Sarah says
Nella’s meltdown = Priceless. Again, looks like sooo much fun! Love it all.
Ali's Mom says
There are some amazing pics in this post and you really do have it going on, sister. You are and always will be the best thing for your kids! I never took much stock in the whole “special needs” thing – EVERY kid has special needs and it’s up to the mom to figure out how to deal with them. You do an amazing job.
Rik says
You make Mama a title, like one bestowed by Royalty…like if one could be knighted, and they proved worthy, then and only then might they be “Mama-ed!” Even in medicine–which I see first-hand and up close, all the research, evidence-based practice, education and clinical trials are sometimes simply trumped by wise, passionate “instinct” that seems ignited by The Creator to lead one to wholeness. We can’t explain it, but are compelled to listen when it seems to shout its truth. OK, Nella with the cartoon bib–melted a Poppa at his desk this morning. I had to print it off. I have a speaking engagement this evening and I am going to tell our story, entitling it “Finding Beauty in the Shadows.” We have. Yes we have.
–Poppa
Babygirl says
Sore cheekbones…sounds like allergy sinus…If that’s what it is, may I suggest Mucinex D, OMGoodness, that stuff is amazing!!! Feel better!
Shari says
I hope you feel better soon. Any new mama that recieves that advice from you is one lucky lady, I think I may have to write that down for me.
Tisha says
nella is proof a loving big sister is the best therapy!
instincts – win!
Gwen says
Wow, Nella looks like such a big girl in those pictures at the picnic table. How do they grow up so fast? My big girls turned 4 yesterday, and my littlest one will be 1 in nine days. When the days are hectic, I can always use the reminder to cherish them. Thanks for that.
Todd Bedo says
Trust your instincts.. I love it! You seriously have one of the few blogs I will actually take the time to read. You inspire me!
Mark, Wendy, Dale and Rose says
You are so right. Instincts are everything. I so needed to hear that, thanks.
Old Farmer says
Kelle – Just keep doing what you’re doing – heavy doses of love and day-to-day living. Got a story for you:
My sainted grandma had two daughters with Down Syndrome – her 7th and 8th children – and she became a widow shortly after the birth of the youngest. This was in a time when there were no books, therapy, etc. – in fact, she was told to institutionalize them right away.
Thankfully, love won out, she brought them home, raised them along with the rest of her farm kids, took them everywhere she went, and allowed them an amazing life that was pretty much unheard of in the 1920s – 30s. And the world was a better place because of them. They were a HUGE part of my childhood, and even though they’ve been gone probably 20 years, I still miss them.
Thankful that Nella has so many more opportunities available to her – but you’re already giving her everything she really needs.
Blessings —
Kathy
Anjie says
What a beautiful post! I agree with you wholeheartedly.
Your girls are beautiful and you’re an awesome mom. How far apart in age are they?
Amelia says
Your last little bit of advice made me think of the first day that we were home from the hospital with our tiny squeaking son in arms and what was, I’m sure, a completely shell shocked look on our faces. My dad was watching me really closely, and as he and my mom were getting ready to leave he said, “you really are a mother. You are this little boy’s mother!” and I made some shy self-effacing comment about hoping that I would be up to the task. He leaned over to kiss me on the cheek and said, “God wouldn’t have given you anything that you couldn’t handle” with tears in his eyes and the biggest smile. Although we’re in the spiritual category more than the religious, those words were so comforting to me because I just knew that it was true. There have been so many late nights or early mornings or bowls of oatmeal flying around the kitchen moments where I’ve smiled because I know that I was given this opportunity and that I am, in all of my glorious imperfections, the perfect person to be raising this little boy. I couldn’t agree with you more that we need to be, above all, fostering a community of women where instincts are celebrated instead of questioned…if we’re loving hard and laughing hard and choosing our battles wisely and surrounding ourselves with good people, what could we really be doing that’s wrong?
Thanks for sharing this!
Hinz fam says
Nella throws a cute tantrum 🙂
SAHM says
Oh my gosh! I love the Nella drama. I could just picture the situation in that picture of her head defeated in the pool. Love it.
And yes, instincts are so important. Sometimes you just can’t put your choices into words, you just feel it’s right. Another great post!
Barbie says
Kelle- There is a U-Pick place near you for Blueberries! (and they happen to grow wonerfully here, too!) it’s at Jubilatin 1 mile west of 29 (239) 657-4888 THe kids would have a blast! Way less than grocery prices. 🙂
Jacki says
Oh, how I love those pictures of your girls loving on their baby dolls. Talk about instincts! And a Daddy who paints fingernails? Oh yeah. He’s a keeper. 🙂
Nella is one smart little babe. That glass of wine DID look tempting!
Lately I’ve been thinking so much about family and babies and trying to find where I fit into the picture as I build a relationship with a single father of a two-year-old. Even though I’m not The Mama, instinct really is the best guide. I have to remember that more. Don’t stress about roles or titles – just love the little dude, and the rest will fall into place.
You inspire me daily, mama – keep at it!
GraceesMommy says
OH I think you gave very good advice off the cuff! Sleep! Pictures! I would say ENJOY is the GOLDEN key to it all..enjoy even the crappy days because guess what..they are your crappy days and they still count as one day in the life of you! And if you can’t enjoy them..have a glass of wine and hum a bar or two of “The sun will come out tomorrow” because after a bit you will start believing it.
Been away from the blogging world because I have been enjoying family and feel like I have missed so much…dude..your Mum was a wickedly beautiful bride!!!! ♥
Paige says
I just want to hug Nella and Lainey. They are so precious!
Jasmine says
Love it! All children, just need the love of their mama and family. They never thought my oldest would do well homeschooling but I fiercely love this girl so much I had to protect her and she is doing so well. And has the self confidence to do what she really wants. I don’t always take the experts advice, I follow my instincts on what she needs and at what time and I search out the best options for her. I love this post it is so true, I am 8 years in the journey (apert’s syndrome though) and I couldn’t have said it better.
Angel says
A great post. I will reread it on those days I’m too exhausted to do another therapy or doctor appointment, and we call in sick and spend the day snuggling in our pj’s. 🙂
Summit of Glory says
The brie, the wine, the babies huggin’ babies, daddy’s painting toes…..beautiful! You are so right about instincts and knowing exactly what our babies need. I think too often we as parents try to turn our designer kiddos into “super-Ds kids”…the best within Ds…know what I mean (I know we all want our kids to be the best…but it’s a fine line between wanting what’s best for them and pushing to be something they are not or to try to “fix” them). And I believe they will flourish with our love and a wonderful supportive family environment…Early intervention always runs the risk of unintended consequences & robbing them of a childhood. It’s all about balance, baby!!!!! xo
lola says
get some oil of oregano, a few drops under your tongue and you’ll be good as new. it’s a harsh flavour, but fights sickness really well.
love your blog- been a fan for a long time!
MAPS says
IT may be weird, by my favorite picture in this post is the one of Nella laying on the ground next to the pool reaching in to touch the water with your husbands food and knee just visable. Daddy is there to keep her safe! You are a wonderful photographer.
lynxymama says
lovely! so lovely!
i will never forget tru’s speech teacher telling me that he was making progress because of US, saying she can set up ideas but we do the work all together.
Liliana says
Oh God, you just made me laugh and cry out loud…..
You are right! instinct -that’s it! But sometimes we just get lost in the daily chaos ….
Kelle, you are such an inspiration! Can’t wait for Lainey’s birthday party pics!
TammyW says
Wow, this post really hit home with me. My oldest has Down Syndrome and it was hard for me to realize that my instincts are good. He’s had some complex medical issues which makes it harder. When I find myself second guessing a decision I tell myself all of our decisions have been good so far so we must know something. For me part of parenting is always having a small voice asking if we’re doing enough for both of our kids. In the end I know we’re doing the best we can and always striving to do better.
I love the naked baby dolls. We don’t have any clothed dolls at our house. I’m not even sure we know where their clothes are located.
Esther says
Thank you for your vote of confidence for us mamas!
Esther Dush
Victoria says
Goregous pictures of your babes together!! Their blonde hair blowing in the wind and smiles on their faces 🙂
Hooray to Nella! How big she is getting. Her meltdowns and adventurous spirit remind me of my 16 month old nephew, he too, can throw a winner of a meltdown if you walk away from him.
What a fun birthday party Lainey will have, I can’t wait to see the photos!
as always, thanks for sharing your words and amazing photos of your sweet girls!
Holly Taylor says
Someone said to me the other day “wow you really know your kids.” That was one of the best compliments of my life. It makes all the dirty dishes lining the sink and all the laundry waiting to be clean okay and acceptable, but most importantly I KNOW my kids.
Great post, love the picture of Nella pouting!
Kulio says
I’m determined to comment more 🙂 I read every single post and look at every single picture but sometimes I’m on the run. Today I want to say – SO GLAD you’re in your home sweet home again. I can tell it feels fantastic. Yeah your body is saying, “Now I have time for a cold”, ha, but you can whip it with some slowness. My favorite favorite picture is the one looking at their backs at the little picnic table. Something about that little pinafore…sweetness. Can’t wait to see pics of Lainey’s party!
tracyallegre says
Yours in hands down my favorite blog. Ever. Your family is so blessed. Can’t wait to see pictures of Lainey’s big celebration. She is so lovely.
Kate says
I love today’s post, I am with you sister, on trusting your instincts. I have raised my now teenage daughters for the last 8 years on my own. My insticts are almost always bang on…
Jillington, a.k.a. the Polack says
The picture of Nella face down on her tube in the pool, devastated, made me laugh so damn hard this morning. Thank you. My 16 mo daughter and I are having one of ‘those’ days. It was helpful to laugh and keep things in check so I don’t lose my cool completely before 10:30am.
Emily says
Seriously? One hand and one foot on the picnic table while putting food to mouth with the other hand…delicious!
You are so right (as always!) – motherhood is driven by instinct. What an amazing truth of nature, that with sperm-meet-egg comes all we need to help them thrive.
Your “sermon” is powerful, your pictures are beautiful, your love is abundant. Happy party planning!
Crystal says
You are so right! The instinct advice is always something I have relied on. My mom always says, “NO ONE knows your child like you do!” and she’s dead-on. Go Kelle go!
35before35 says
This just made me so teary…thank you, thank you for reminding me that I DO know what I am doing. This was perfect timing, I was having on of “those” mornings with my 2 and a half year old and have been going over and over in my head about all the things I’m not sure I am doing right. But, I am. We are. My girl is lovely and amazing and will always be.
Thanks. 🙂
Teresa says
This post… is so true. My two sweet girls are both adopted (at birth, no foster care) and I know with all of my being that I was intended to be their mama. When my oldest was little, she had lots of ear infections and we found ourselves at the doctor’s office often. During one of those visits, he dismissed something I’d told him that I thought was going on, so I pressed and told him again. Again he dismissed me. It was an instinctual thing I was trying to convey and he, for whatever reason, saw no reason to consider it. I fired him.
Ever since, when asked to give advice to a new mama, I always, always tell them to trust their instincts. We know our kids, we live and breathe our sweet gifts from God regardless of how they come to us.
Blessings to you and yours for a lovely weekend.
xoxo, teresa
Katie says
Hahhaaaa!!! My mom taught me how to make the BEST bisquick shortcake. It’s funny how the simple stuff really sticks with us as we grow up and nurture our own families.
Don’t ever feel guilty for reading “Real Simple”. That magazine knows what it is doing. The layouts are always so clean and wonderfully simple.
Wendy says
I’ve been a speech therapist for 25years… and I think I love you. You’ve got it nailed my dear.
You rock, and Nella will soar.
hugs.
wendy
Anna says
I love the picture of Daddy painting nails! 😀 What a man.
My Secret Rooms says
Relaxing wine evenings are wonderful!
Exhibit A is so cute!!!! Poor thing 🙂
I’m away at a conference in à absolutely beautiful town but your pics make me long to go home! Like, I can’t wait.
Home is the best 🙂
Daniele says
One of my closest friends is due to give birth to her first any day- I think I will steal your advice- so perfect and so true!
Wheaty says
So much of this post resonates with me right now. This is something I’ve been thinking about and discussing frequently in the past week – the idea of the instincts of motherhood and the natural inclination towards selflessness. Unfortunately, in my discussions with others, it seems that we agree that the self-sacrifice that comes so naturally to me and so many other mamas, is not natural to many others. Realizing that helps me to have patience with those other women when I come across them.
I did want to mention – Nella is only a couple months older than my son, and miles ahead in her fine and gross motor skills. Sounds like big sister (and mama!) is doing a great job with teaching her things. That girl is going to be just fine.
Aaaand…. I’ll stop my rambling 😀
E says
The picture of Nella eating with her foot propped on the picnic table cracks me up! Lil Gumby 🙂 And the bond between Lainey and Nella is evident in those looks captured in your photographs. Be well – E
Celeste says
Kelle, I absolutely adore ALL of your posts. Your girls are so precious! LOVE Lainey’s little mini-bun in her hair! And the picture of Nella with her baby doll… I had to call my husband over to show him. Such a beautiful baby!
Kristen says
My twins began EI when they were only 4 months old. One of my girls has a very rare genetic condition that causes motor delays, poor muscle tone, ataxia, etc. Without her OT and PT she probably would never have walked. I just wanted to second the importance of EI and all that they do. I too am ready to march the steps to expand the program. 😀
Kirby Johansen says
My favorit pic is the one with Nella on the little table eating with her foot on the top. My little Deo does that and I LOVE it!!!
Mama says
I look forward to reading your blog every day! Beautiful memories captured in gorgeous pictures. Thanks for sharing!
You seem like such a wonderful mom, your girls are so lucky to have you.
I hope that I can get my blog looking better. I like you, love taking pictures of everyday with my girls. mysweethoneybees.blogspot.com
heather says
Girlfriend, you continue to amaze and inspire! Love it all!!!
WhatDoesTheFutureHold says
Im going to have to try that dessert recipe, it sounds amazing!!
Melissa.
Olga says
I always enjoy your photos. Your daughters are two little suns. And you are very inspirational person.
jesshaydel says
As always youre writing is beautiful. Insticts are an amazing thing, and I believe as mothers we have deeper and more intuitive instincts. I know if it wasnt for mine my daughter probably wouldnt be here today, or we would have continued at the same doctor telling us “Everything is fine shes just delayed she will catch up”
I knew there was more, and it took a lot of time, guts, and instincts to finally get the answer we needed. I like you am all down for EARLY INTERVENTION, the earlier the better. I enrolled my daughter before she was even diagnosed with Williams because I KNEW something was wrong. It needs more money, more advocates, more attention!!
Congrats to Nella on her milestons, we are still working on eating with Sky. She just does not get the concept from the fork in the bowl to the mouth, it gets lost somewhere in between.
Her hair is getting soooo long and as always your pictures are pricesless and memories to remember forever
Ani says
I was definitely in need of a little (actually a lot) of inspiration today, and Kelle, you delivered. Thank you!
melifaif says
Oh wow! This moved me. What a post?!? And I simply laughed out loud…at the foot on the table eating watermelon shot. And of Lainey in the pool with her bottom sinking into the float tube. Absolutely fabulous! And so is that advice…..
jen says
remember a long time ago when you asked me for advice on helping lainey talk? and at the very end of a long email in which i told you WAY TOO MUCH INFORMATION (sorry) … i said something like … “i’m sure you are already doing so much of this. if that’s the case. then … yay you! good job mama! you are doing exactly what you should do.”
yeah. that.
hanguptheheels.com says
Love this! So true about instincts, you just have to trust yourself as a mommy to know what to do. I mean, if your body can figure out to grow a baby based on its own instincts I think it’s safe to say you can make the right decision based on them as well.
Henry and Jules says
I love the picture of Nella eating the watermelon at her little table. I love seeing her toes sitting on top of the table…I wish I was that flexible 🙂
Still loving your blog!
Julia
Maureen says
Let me say it again… I LOVE, lOvE, LoVe reading your blog! It warms my heart so much. My four-year-old daughter, Mia, loves to sit on my lap as I read quietly to myself. She looks forward to seeing the many pictures of your girls (and knows them by name by the way), and today she made me smile. Why? She said, “Why is Nella always so happy?” I thought it was so sweet because my four-year-old, who has no idea what Down Syndrome is, falls into the stereotype of thinking they’re “always happy”. Have a fantabulous day! With love from Michigan :o)
B's Mommy says
In the cookies of life, sisters are the chocolate chips!
Nella could not have gotten a better sister, teacher & forever friend.
B's Mommy says
When sister stand shoulder to shoulder, who stands a chance against us? ~Pam Brown~
Brett is the BEST Daddy ever!! A little girls dream.
shelly says
AMEN!
HALLELUJAH!
This is the best advice ever.
I get so tired when someone tells me about the book they read and how everyone should “do it this way or that way”.
My mom gave me the best advice when I was a new mom.
She said read the books if you want, but don’t be afraid to take what looks good to you and trash the rest.
Our children are individuals and unique and I believe Jesus gave me my sweet boy and girl because I am just who I need to be to raise them.
Best post ever!
Beverly says
Glad you’re home, hope you’re feeling better. The picture of Nella hugging the doll just takes my breath away. And the one of Lainey in hter green hoody with that pink necklace laying just right – precious. You are a blessed mama. Thanks for sharing with this old mama.
Andrea says
love your advice to mothers. that’s such great and wonderful wisdom.
Emma Krueger says
You are an incredible mama! GREAT post!
Heather says
OK, so the picture of Nella eating melon with her leg up on the table… absolutely priceless!! I also especially love the “I’m going for the wine” shots! What a lucky set of girls you have, and how blessed they are to have each other!
Amanda says
I’m going to school to become a Speech Therapist. Your blog gives me that push I need to study a little harder. Maybe one day I can do my part in helping make the life of a little one even better.
Rachael says
Nella is so funny. Sometimes it’s funny how quick kids can get mad!
She looks so cute in that tube in the pool! And her hair is getting longer! Of course it is, but I finally noticed!
Love the pictures of your daughters by the swing. They are so cute.
The Annessa Family says
Beautiful advice! I always worry how I’ll do going from nothing to a 9 month old (we’re adopting from Taiwan!). I hope my instincts are ready for the 20 something hour plane ride back home!!!
Brooke Annessa
http://www.theannessafamily.blogspot.com
mamaoftwo says
I love the part about kids with DS are always happy. That made me laugh out loud…my little guy is happy a lot, but when he is not….look out! Thanks for the sweet post and beautiful pics.
Amie says
You’re right-we, as mamas, are given everything we need to succeed. Work it.
And I cannot WAIT for the party! xo
AC says
Ahhh, Kelle, those girls are adorable. Such great photos. Amazing journeys… could you have ever imagined it??
Keep it up, Mama.
And thank you for this: You have everything it takes. You just don’t know it yet. Whenever you feel exhausted, confused, incapable or at your wit’s end…look within. Trust your instincts.
It’s so easy to forget, and such a great reminder.
Thanks!
Kenneth says
i love it. Nella is looking like a big girl all the sudden. Sigh. They grow up toooo fast! thanks for inspiring, as always.
haveFaith says
Nothing more to say then, just beautiful. Your words, advice, children, pictures. Everything.
Liane says
I learnt to trust my Mummy instincts when my son was 5 months old and I knew he wasn’t ‘right’. Everyone, including my husband and doctors told me that I was being silly & over protective.. Fast forward 2 hours and I am in an ambulance with him speeding to the hospital where he was diagnosed with Swine Flu, Broncitis, and Croup.. From that day on I never ignore my instincts.. Mummy knows best!
Thank you.. Your blog inspires me to be a better Mummy..
Oh and Nella is looking so grown up!! A proper little toddler xx
Michelle Landwehr says
I fall in love with your blog every time I read it. I’m struggling while trying to conceive again after a loss and your blog brings me hope even though the challenges we face are different. Thank you.
Kate says
As a therapist for children with autism (and mama myself), I completely respect the mama’s instinct! Lainey and Nella are equally lucky to have you as their mama.
Jen says
I found your blog recently and think your stories are beautiful. Thank you for sharing them!
The Mommy Therapy says
There are no truer words.
I think we all get caught up in the “rules” and recommendations and judgement from others about what we should or should not be doing with our children, but the truth is we know best. Sometimes what works for us isn’t what the lastest board of pediatric specialists recommends, sometimes our kids need a little processed white sugar, a nap on their tummy or a drive down an empty cul-de-sac helping Mommy drive….I swear this is very slow, empty street and is just pure JOY for my 5 year old.
Such true words. Thanks for sharing.
Brown Eyed Mama says
Nella’s foot up on the table made me laugh like an idiot–Leylie does the same thing, one little foot up on the high chair tray or the table, always.
Melina says
Thank you Kelle, because sometimes I’m overcome with doubt and anxiety that I could provide a wonderful life for the children of my future…just because money is hard and health care is hard and the world is getting tough….
But after a morning read over coffee of your words and sun dappled photos, I’m reminded that my love, and instinct, and the nurturing need that my own mother instilled in me…well, not I’m just excited.
I absolutely love the photo of Nella cradling the doll, what a shot. What emotion. How cool that she learned all that love and tenderness….from you!
Big sister is showing up in photos more and more with grown up expressions…contemplation, thoughtful….she is a beauty.
I love that you were leaving a comment on my recent post as I was reading yours 😉
xox
Melina
http://www.thewildercoast.com
kcolquitt says
OK- Can I just say how funny it is that right after you talk about Nella and Gross Motor Development, there is a picture of her balancing on the picnic table, while her foot is ON the table and she’s resting her arm on her leg. I don’t know ANYone that can pull that off!!
Esther Heavnzbrat says
what a beautiful entry. I love that quote you posted. and seriously that photo of Nella’s foot hoisted on the table while she’s eating is just too cute to boot!!!! made me smile on a sleepy thursday morning. also ur eldest has grown up a lot since i first started reading you. how fast they grow… *le sigh~
Bonnie says
i love that! ‘crushes remorselessly’, yes very badass. i make the the strawberry shortcakes that way too; delicious & easy.
http://www.forever-wild-and-free.blogspot.com
Siri says
I understand what you are saying because I sometimes feel the same way, but you clearly are doing an amazing job! And I think there is another unspoken thing we understand when we become parents…we are just doing the best we can and if we do it out of love for our kids we are bound to make the right decision! It helps me understand my parents more:) Have a great weekend!
megs says
It was a surprise when our son was born with DS four weeks ago. I’ve had emotional struggles tempered with an overwhelming love for my new little boy. Since hearing of your blog last week, I’ve enjoyed back-reading your entries and watching Nella grow. Your optimistic outlook rubs off on me, and your amazing photos inspire me to take more of my own beautiful family. Thank you.
Melissa says
so true–mamas know their kids better than any specialist or “expert!”
also, your girls are *so beautiful*!!
B&S says
Right on! As a mom of a special needs daughter who is now 25 you are so absolutely right. Loving them, setting high expectations, and encouraging them are the best things you can do. You are so smart to trust your instincts! Moms really do know best!
laurieg says
I love this, kelle. I know that when my time comes, I too will have what it takes to just do!
Tonja Keene says
I once heard the quote- and I wish I could remember where- “Women’s intuition is the purest form of revelation.” I thought it was so beautiful. It pops into my mind every time I doubt something that’s happening or when I’m worrying about whether I am making the right choice. I say to myself, Tonja, you know what to do. And if I fail, I fail. There’s always another day and I will never stop trusting my instincts.
Love this post!
Farmgirl Paints says
great advice girl. my notecard would say to just chill. that the little being will fit into your life and home. don’t try to do what every one else does. be who you are and relax.
Team Lando says
sad, my first, more clever comment is gone. so i’ll just say that the girls are too cute!
Katy says
YAY THE POST IS BACK! 🙂
lightkeepersdaughter says
Such good wisdom you’re imparting! It’s so true. We think – until we’re Mom’s – that we don’t/won’t have a clue. And – then – guess what?! We are more than capable! Exhausted? – Yes! Learning every minute? You bet! Need to ask for advise once in a while? Yup! Make mistakes from time to time? Absolutely! But we’re doin’ this “Mom thing” every day – and we’re rockin’ it! I tell my young, worried, pregnant friends, all the time – “you are going to be such an excellent Mom – you just wait and see!” …… And, I’ve never been wrong! 🙂
I love your pictures – little Miss Nella feeding herself – using a fork – I loooooooove that little foot up on the table, with her little toes peeking. How does she do that? She looks so nonchalant and comfortable, too…
And – the relationship between Lainey and her little sister, has tenderness written all over it. I’m sure they have their ‘moments’ – but, it’s so precious to see Lainey looking out for her baby sister. What an awesome big sister she is!
Thanks again – for all that you share……………Rosemary
Angie says
Cool, I’m not crazy.
LOVE that dinner…reminds me of the 6 months I spent in Europe. Yeah, I used to be cool. Tonight my mission is to hunt down some Brie!
That birthday party is gonna rock!
Happy Friday, friend.
XOXO,
Angie from Ohio
pam says
I thought I was seeing things! I checked earlier and wondered what had happened to this post.
Glad it is back. All the pictures are wonderful.
Do you think Nella will be left handed like her daddy? Well, I guess I am assuming he is left handed from one of the photos here. I notices Nella using her left hand in a few pics too.
Have a great weekend!!! pam
lightkeepersdaughter says
A note to Team Lando!…. Go find a program called LAZARUS. Google it – it’s a free little program that you download – and it keeps a record of your entries onto blogs, facebook, e-mails, etc. Then – when your computer ‘craps’, you just click on LAZARUS – find your comment in its entirety, copy it, and come back here – paste it – and you’re good to go.
Lazarus was raised from the dead – and so will your comment be! 🙂
I’d be so mad, about 10 times a week, if I didn’t have Lazarus!
Mom Fashion World says
Pictures are always beautiful.
I salute you and you’re one of my
inspirations.
God bless you and your family.
Elleah says
I love the picture of daddy painting his daughter’s nails!
Candi says
I came across your blog yesterday, and immediately joined. I love your photography and your words, and although my 2 boys are in a different stage then your 2 girls(mine are 12 & 15), I find we have a lot in common. We are both Mothers learning as we go.
Cheers to you, and all those new experiences!
Thanks!
kshin002 says
I just found your blog yesterday and since then I have caught myself up! I absolutely love all of your photography! You are extremely talented! Just love it!!
Carol S. says
Don’t worry, I didn’t email you, take your time getting back in the swing. You are talented and have awesome pictures and interesting views. Thanks for a cool blog…beautiful daughters too.
Kelle says
Blgger was down for 24 hours and it ate this post earlier! Glad it’s back. Sorry if your comment was deleted. It ate all those, I guess.
TRB Holt says
A Beauty Kelle!
I love this quote:
Most mothers are instinctive philosophers.
~ Harriet Beecher Stowe
xo,
Bug & Ruby’s Gram
G-Zell says
Your pictures are beautiful!
Jen from Meet the Camerons says
I love the new header – so summer.
xo
Summit of Glory says
lovely as always. Nella at the table w her foot on the table makes me laugh. We have so many pictures of our little guy with his foot up by his face. Funny & sweet! xo
Aimee aka "Mommy" who writes our family blog says
I LOVE the new mother’s advice! So, so needed when you’re embarking on this amazing journey of motherhood. Well said!
Roksalanna says
Looking forward to seeing pictures from Lainey’s party. You do the best parties Kelle!
Sarah Pomranka says
I think that baby shower card advice works for all kinds of challenges we women go through. I think we, women especially, need to stop and remember that we have enough, we are enough. We don’t need power trips or comprehensive knowledge of everything. We want the best, whatever shape that takes. You have such honest goodness…like good iced tea.
Kristin says
A list of overdue comments:
1. Is it weird to say your some of your posts have a tendency to make me want to take a soak in the tub? Real Simple, candlelight, and bubbles sound like the perfect week finisher for me.
2. I will continue to take pics and learn until I can be half as good as you.
3. I live in SoCal because I love the warm weather, and I am lusting over FL right now.
4. Your daughters are beautiful. Your words are beautiful, too.
5. I’m making strawberry shortcake right now.
AllisonKathleen says
I wish someone would have told me your piece of baby shower advice. My preemie is now 10 weeks old, and thriving above and beyond any of his doctor’s expectations. It took me a while to realize that I know what’s best for my son-proof in point, his amazing 6lb weight gain. It was supposed to take him 6 months to gain that much instead of 2.5. I grew and will continue to grow my boy on breast milk and love.
Tina says
Just the post I needed to finish off this long week… as always, thanks for sharing Kelle! I’m throwing my sister’s baby shower in about two weeks and I am setting up a scrapbooking table so people can make scrapbook pages and put words of wisdom/encouragement/etc on cardstock and assemble a page leaving space for a picture or two. Your advice is absolutely perfect… and I might have to steal it… as long as you don’t mind. 😉
K says
My very best mama moments are those when I just kicked back and loved life with my children in that very moment, pushing all those outside pressures and concerns far away from my family. And today, my kids are in their twenties, and I don’t regret a single moment when every cell of my being and soul was focused on loving and enjoying them. A mother can’t learn that on page 67 or chapter 22 of any book. A mother’s instinct is pure magic.
Kelly says
Blogger was hungry yesterday because it ate everyone’s blog and comments up…ha!
I absolutelyl love the one of them with their hair blowing w nella on the swing. yuuuuuuum!
genderist says
beautiful shots, beautiful advice, beautiful you
Julie says
I’ve never read your blog before but a friend linked it on facebook and I tend to love whatever she loves…so I came right over. This was a beautiful post. I loved everything you said and your daughters are beautiful. Thank you for sharing and thank you for remindding me that I am everything my children need. *ok…have to stop typing as the tears in my eyes are keeping me from being able to read*
Angela says
Oh how I love your blog! Thanks for the strawberry shortcake recipe. So simple yet so delicious looking. Well, anything that starts with Bisquick has gotta be good right?!? Going to make it for my twin 2 year olds and hubby this weekend:)
Amy says
I know this is not associated with today’s blog.. but kelle.. KATE BUSH… new album can you stand it?
i love your babies..I love your family.. you help remind me why.
Every day.. something else.. thanks for reminding me why..
Everyone says this, but I swear to the lord we would be great great friends you and I…. you are my friend..
Stacey says
Haha… your picture of Nella’s meltdown reminded me of the class I used to teach in. My students with Down Syndrome were definitely on the extreme of both emotions – they could be my happiest students, and my saddest… They’d do something wrong and lose five minutes of recess, and you’d think the world was coming to an end! Loved working with them though – they were always keeping me on my toes. 🙂
FEAS613 says
Love the new header 🙂 Hope your feeling better!!
Happy Weekend!
~Beth
Christy says
Oh I just LOVE your new header! It’s delicious!
forevermoores says
precious new header!!!! I love it!!! I also loved the last one with sweet Nella!!!! and your Nella has quite a bit in common with my little miss…meltdown central when Mama dares to leave!! 🙂 have a wonderful weekend!! xoxo
puckedbylove says
I received some good words of advice at my baby shower at the beginning of last month – but I wish your words had been among them.
My little one was diagnosed with DS earlier in the month – and we are slowly learning all about it as we go along. I have been feeling very down and out about my abilities to parent her…but then I stop to remember, that we were chosen for eachother.
Your blog and your love for Nella are inspiring. Thank you.
-Amanda
christina says
Thank you. Just, thank you. I totally needed that!
Happiness is... says
I have to agree with you about follow your instincts. I just told a pregnant friend just that 2 weeks ago. She’s wiging out b/c she’s used to being a control freak and as you know, babies don’t come with operating manuals. I told her to always trust the mama within her.
I love motherhood so. I feel so much more myself as a mother than ever have before. The skin may stretch from the physical part of motherhood, but my soul, my heart, my essence continues to stretch, evolve, change. Leaves me gasping for words at times.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Jennifer from Annapolis
Rosellini says
One of my fav posts in awhile! I love this….mama instincts are “just right”. The new pics of Nella and just GORGEOUS! She’s turning into a little toddler and so beautiful!
Jess says
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Maria says
Early intervention is everything!!!! I am an ABA Therapist working with Children with Autisum..I love my job and know that I was put on this earth to work with children with special needs! Kelle…your words bring me to tears…happy tears. The love you have for your girls is Oh So Evident even to a complete stranger as myself. Your daughters are BEAUTIFUL…NELLA has captured my heart..she has such an amazing spark in her eye…and she and Lainey are so blessed to have each other!
wendy says
Don’t those little breakdowns from your babies make you smile inside? “I want you, and only you, mommy”. It’s the most amazing feeling. I just love the picture of Nella’s little head in the raft. Precious girl. I try to capture some of the less than perfect picture moments as well, because they are very funny later 🙂 Ok-rambling now. Love the post, Kelle.
-W.
Brenda says
Love. Your. Blog.
You inspire me.
Thank you once again.
Ashley says
Love this post Kelle! Inspiring as always.
Comeca Jones says
All love .
Focus Photography says
Love your posts and blog Kelle
Mama Mistake says
The best advice I ever received was on a note card at my baby shower for my first baby—“You don’t have to be a perfect mom to be a good mom, trust your instincts.” I have never forgot that and have passed it on at every baby shower I’ve been to since.
Alexa Mae says
She seriously looks just like you. Can I just say how darling they both are? The pic of Nella sitting at that adorable picnic bench eating watermelon is slaying me.
And I absolutely adore the love you can SEE in yours and Bretts eyes, in every single picture you have with your girls.
Lesley says
I LOVE the picture of Nella with her head on the floatie thing. That is exactly how I felt today!
Lisa Y. says
Love the green hoodie. I want one for myself!!
DeAnn says
I am a big fan of instinctual parenting. My best piece of advice for new parents, or new again parents: When you’re not sure what to do, or how to calm, or how to fix the current problem, take the baby into a dark room, lovingly hold, nurse, or rock your baby (or child) and block out the rest of the world. Just coencentrate on them, and you, not the problem. As the love flows, intsincts kick in, and you will know what to do for your child.
Following your instincts, and showing your children the same respect you would like from them in return, makes raising children a true joy.
Real men paint tiny toes. ‘Nuf said! I love it when my hubby paints the girls’ nails. <3 He usually uses a rapid dry topcoat so they’re up and running quickly.
Conkit says
I just loved Nellas picture of her hugging her baby doll. Oh and her drama queen moment was hilarious.
Penny says
Love the pictures! My favorites are the b&w of the girls together and the one of Nella embracing the baby dolls. So precious!!! 🙂
Nicolle says
I love what you wrote, because right now I feel “exhausted, confused, incapable and at my wit’s end”. I think you’ve given me a new strength. Thank you!
Jess says
I have a picture of my man’s Man husband painting our daughters fingernails. It is one of my all-time Fav pictures. I think that a man is his sexiest when he is being a Daddy who will do anything for his children.
Sarah RDH says
Hi Kelle! I’ve been away a week or so, my computer got a virus and hubby had to do a bunch of crap to it…but your mom’s wedding was beautiful! She looks SO HAPPY!! I am so glad you got to come back north and spend time with your family. I’m in Ohio, and we’ve actually had some nice weather lately, glad you got to enjoy it! oh and Happy Mothers Day!
Erin says
Always enjoy reading your blog. Scratch that. Always LOVE reading your blog!!!!
Cassie Webster says
Please, please…how do you get the muted look to your photos???
Nykki says
So we have an eleven year old girl that is stepping into hormone-ville u.s.a. and a 21 month old down syndrome little boy. The sophistication in both of their drama is absolutely genius….and it pretty much remains that Andrew will always get the role at audition time. It is hilarious.
Isabella's Mommy.... says
We are at the beach with the family & I still take my ‘me’ moment with my cup of joe & stop to check your blog. Always the most inspiring part of my day!
Natalie says
Does everyone turn their pregnancy test upside down so that the “surprise” can have full effect when they turn it over? I thought it was just me lol 🙂
Nicole says
I love that you all seem to love Target as much as we do. The doll Lainey is holding is the same one we have. Madelyn has named her Julie. We know no one named Julie. The cute yellow hairbow with a flower on it Nella’s wearing..yep we have those too. Love those suckers.
Julie says
Homeschool those girls Kelle, you are their best teacher and advocate!
Alisha says
Your pictures are absolutely fabulous, and your girls are insanely adorable.
I love your view on instincts. What a great line “There is a certain confidence you acquire when you discover your instincts are worth trusting.”
Hope you have a great day!
xoxo
Megan Taylor says
“You have everything it takes. You just don’t know it yet. Whenever you feel exhausted, confused, incapable or at your wit’s end…look within. Trust your instincts.”
i stumbled upon your blog, finding the very words that i needed to hear, at this very moment.
thank you.
Esther says
Kelle how did you get the effect/look of the first image on this post?
Mary says
You will probably never read this, as this is an old post, but I wanted to comment anyway. I’m a long -time blog lover, but this post? I needed it Kelle. I have been feeling so lost as a mother, so sure that I lack the instincts you seem to have in such abundance. I have so many resources, so many reasons to be an amazing mother but the confidence – that’s missing. The answers? Hard to find. I find myself so often in fight, flight or freeze and very often, I simply freeze. I needed the reassurance that I’m something simply because I AM the mama that it’s all there inside the packaging…. I just have to look for it. Anyway, love your blog, love your family, love you! Thanks so much for writing.