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Yes You Can – Oxford Pennant Collaboration

August 27, 2019 By Kelle

Yes You Can – Oxford Pennant Collaboration

Early this year, I reached out to one of my favorite companies with an idea for a custom piece for Nella’s room and the possibility of turning it into something bigger I could share with you. It was fueled by my love for clean, colorful design but more so the message I want Nella to hear over and over–that she is not limited by a disability, and that her dreams in life are answered by the anthem of three powerful words: Yes. You. Can.

The company I approached is Oxford Pennant, a Buffalo shop I’ve been following for a few years now–obsessed with their aesthetic, products (made in the U.S.!), and creative passion behind their marketing. I also knew the owner had a niece with Down syndrome.

One banner snowballed into an entire collaboration–the first product collaboration I’ve ever done, and I could not be more thrilled with everything it turned out to be. A portion of the proceeds of every sale in this collaboration will benefit Ruby’s Rainbow, but the inclusive empowering messages are for us all…

Yes You Can.

Everyone’s Invited…

…and I Like You Just the Way You Are.

I was in Buffalo this past weekend for a fun launch event at the Oxford Pennant Shop, and can I just say, BUFFALO! You SLAYED me! What a fun, creative city with the warmest people. Buffalo’s 21 Connect also came to celebrate with us–a portion of the evening’s sales benefitting their continued mission to provide education about Down syndrome and support to families in the Buffalo community.

I brought home the banner that started it all and wasted no time in getting it hung in Nella’s room.

In a little over 24 hours in Buffalo, I got the full behind-the-scenes tour of Oxford Pennant and learned more about the story behind their company and the wonderful creative people who are part of it–all which made me even more proud to have my name next to theirs in these products I cannot wait to see out in the world.

There’s something for everyone in this collaboration…which is exactly what these products are about: Celebrating everything, everyone.

Shop the entire Kelle Hampton x Oxford Pennant collaboration, and when your banners and pennants and sweatshirts and patches are out there in the world, tag me in the pictures!

I love seeing these messages in your homes, knowing you’re loving something we made.
Can you buy everything in the collaboration online? YES YOU CAN!
Can you buy kid sizes AND adult sizes? YES YOU CAN!
Can you buy from another country? YES YOU CAN!
Can you help a passionate young adult with Down syndrome achieve their college dreams by shopping? YES YOU CAN!

So many yeses. xo

And the hugest thanks to my wonderful friends at Oxford Pennant for making these so beautiful.

Filed Under: Down Syndrome, Fashion, Home, Parenting

Best Marriage Advice You’ve Ever Received

August 23, 2019 By Kelle

Best Marriage Advice You’ve Ever Received

Early this summer, I shared how therapy is strengthening our marriage and why we love it. I asked for the best marriage advice you’ve ever received on Instagram. These are some of my favorite replies. Happy Friday!

Marriage therapy throughout marriage is almost like “well visits”–helps stop problems, helps build a strong foundation. @_natasha_ann_

Go to bed angry! If we get mad or upset, instead of trying to hash it out at night, we rest. Sleep. And generally when we wake up, we either forget we were angry or it doesn’t matter enough to start being angry about it again. @littleavalyn

Think as a long term investor, not as a get-rich-quick day trader. Bad days, bad months, even bad years do not equate to a bad life. Keep investing and trust that it will grow. And the best life motto is also the best marriage motto: Be kind to one another. @greenthumbinpuzzler

A marriage doesn’t need agreement to survive, but rather, empathy. Don’t assume your spouse knows you’re empathetic towards him. Actually say the words, “I would feel that way too if I believed what you believe.” @kayla_gray00

Before I got married, a divorced friend of mine said to never threaten divorce, even jokingly. I’ve always remembered that. @kwriddick

When you stop working on your marriage, your marriage stops working. @wahinekehau

Give each other space and time. Encourage your partner to be an individual and do your own thing as well. Don’t get caught up in marriage and loose yourself. Remember to never let go of who you are. Take care of yourself so you can take care of each other. @mdvanriper

You will fall in and out of passion. Many people mistake that for falling out of love. But when you make the effort to be friends and partners, love is an action, not a feeling; and that passion will always come back around. Some days you feel like you are looking at a stranger, so just do the next right thing. @meganjeffery3171

Best marriage advice is also my best life advice: anger is almost always rooted in fear. Keep digging for it and you’ll find they aren’t mad at you, they are scared of something bigger. @joniedelman

You don’t have to say everything you think. @abharward

 

 

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A Few Things I Learned from Middle School

August 21, 2019 By Kelle

A Few Things I Learned from Middle School

I spent an hour yesterday priming the chalkboard wall in Lainey’s room, painting over her friends’ signatures and rainbow doodles that have represented these past two years. I’ve loved that chalkboard wall–an artistic canvas and a billboard of her thoughts, so many of them that say “I’m still just a kid.” But she’s ready for something a bit more sophisticated or “modern” as she’s requested. She wants black and white like her cousin’s room with millennial decor touches like succulents and candles and geometric art. So I’m following her lead, happy for the opportunity to scratch my decorating itch and right in line with what I’ve promised I will be for her, especially during these middle school years…embracing of the changes.

The beginning of seventh grade this year has been a smooth transition, a welcome shift from the beginning of last year. Last year we went from the bubble of the most wonderful elementary school where everyone felt like family, and parent participation was welcome and celebrated; to a jolting they-need-to-grow-up environment where doors keep parents out and kids are encouraged to advocate for themselves. While I agree for the most part with the importance of self advocating and letting kids fail, the drastically different middle school environment was a hard pill to swallow for a long time. I cried every day after drop-off for the first two weeks last year. But it got better, we learned so many things and had wonderful friends and teachers who helped make sixth grade as good as it could be given the circumstances. I’d be lying though if I said I’m not putting a giant check mark through sixth grade as the first in a “1-down, 2-to-go” hold-your-breath, get-‘er-done experience. Speaking of, this was hilarious.

Middle school isn’t just new to me as a parent; it’s new to me, period. I was homeschooled from middle school through high school, so I don’t have much to go on. However, I can offer great advice on how to quickly change the channel back to your trigonometry VHS so your mom doesn’t know you were really watching Saved by the Bell during.

Here’s a few things I learned about parenting through middle school.

Don’t be fooled by this “They need you less stuff.” They need you more.
Sure, they might not need you to send notes to their teachers anymore because they’re talking to them themselves, but don’t be fooled. They need you more now than ever. The big life questions begin–the complicated social situations, the exposure to real life stuff they’ve been protected from, all the internal dilemmas–“Who am I?”. I feel the responsibility to be on, present, listening and supportive more now than I ever did when she was little. You may have pulled the training wheels completely off their bikes because they’re riding on their own, but now the real work begins because you have to run faster to stay beside them while they pedal. Pay attention.

It’s okay for things not to be perfect.
We were lucky in elementary school to love all of our teachers. If something ever felt off, I e-mailed or called to schedule a meeting, and it was amended in no time. Making sure Lainey had the most loving, supportive environment to learn was an important goal, and it was always met. Now she has more teachers, and while we had a few who stood out as remarkable last year, we didn’t love them all. But I didn’t jump to fix it as quickly as I would have in elementary school because, as long as it’s not majorly affecting learning, I want her to learn how to handle not-so-good teachers too. She’s not going to love every boss she ever works for, and she’s going to need to know how to work through that.

Stay in the know.
It takes a village. Stay connected to it. My kid is a girl of few words which is great for staying out of drama. But I still like to know what’s going on at school and in friend circles beyond her “everything’s fine” answers. Staying connected to other parents–even for things as simple as projects kids are working on for school–helps me understand a broader picture of her world so I can support her appropriately.

Compliment them A LOT.
Sometimes I think I’m subconsciously aware that my time is running out for packing Lainey with all the things I want her to know which compels me to shell out advice. Middle school years are easy targets for parents to try and fix things, but that can come across as fixing them–pointing out things they could do differently. These middle school years are also the prime years for self confidence building though, and I am often reminded of the imbalance of my compliments/advice. Middle school has heightened my awareness of the importance of compliments. Let them know you notice all their amazing qualities. Specifically point them out. Tell them how proud you are that you can trust them. Don’t take for granted that they’re responsible, that they study without being reminded, that they’re kind to their siblings, that they keep their room clean. Point it out. Internally, at this age, they could very well be comparing themselves with everyone else. Your authentic compliments and reminders of their gifts could very well be turning down the volume of those comparisons.

It’s Going to Get Better.
All those This is the Most Tragic Thing Evers that feel so overwhelming at the time? They aren’t going to last as long as you think they are. If there’s anything we learned last year from experience, it’s that the things that felt so BIG as we were heading into them actually turned out to be completely surmountable–maybe even good. “This too shall pass” is the tattooable phrase that will carry you through middle school.

Filed Under: Family, Parenting

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