Summer Bucket
Also known as the post with a million pictures
There’s a little bridge between the bliss of a memory-making vacation and the reality of returning home, and it’s called the last day. In my case, that means madly stashing more memories–the Midwest specialized kind–in the one day I have left and preparing to shift back into real life mode soon.
Getting away offers a great birds-eye perspective to life, and I’m inspired to “clean the shelves” in our home and make room for some of the things I’ve been thinking about the past two weeks–peace and simplicity and family and the joy that follows making decisions to create meaningful moments.
This past week was spent in a cottage in the woods in northern Michigan. It was as proverbial as it sounds. Bonfires, s’mores, coffee on the dock, stargazing, kids that by the end of the night smell like dirt and firewood and fishing worms and mamas that wouldn’t have it any other way.
Oh, where to begin.
Okay, the setting.
So Michigan is like the old boyfriend I left and bumped into ten years later to realize Dude just got superhot over the years and is looking mighty good these days.
First of all, he smells amazing. All earthy and Oakish and manly.
And his eyes? Dreamy. At night, they’re glossy and black and full of stars. And during the day, they change from the reflective blue of summer sky to a million facets of green–from deep and dark evergreens to sunny warm ferns.
He’s suave, this Michigan–serenading with morning bird calls, soothing with afternoon summer breezes. His air is cool and crisp, his sun warm and inviting. And his lakes? Well, he’s blessed in the lake department if you know what I mean.
All this to say, that summer bucket list?
So many things crossed off–things I didn’t even know were on it.
Like making a summer apple pie and eating it on a picnic table in the woods.
Or sudsing up the baby under a canopy of Oaks and Maples for an outside bath. He liked it.
Morning kayaking with family.
Or an afternoon game of Jai Lai, knee deep at the lake’s pointe.
We lived and breathed summer the past two weeks– drank it in huge gulps and made note that it was really good. I can’t tell you how many times I said, smiling, “My kids. My kids are going to remember this.” All those summer memories I have of riding in the car with my siblings, blowing straw paper spit-wads on the rear view mirror from the backseat; searching Tawas rock shops for polished Petoskey stones; acting out the summer Olympics with my cousins; scouring the Great Lake shores for round pebbles and smooth green lake glass–it’s my kids’ turn now. And I watched them, ridiculously happy, summer satisfied, and I couldn’t have been happier knowing their childhood books are being written.

Sparklers with Cousin Brooklyn

Don’t know where Nella is? Check the marshmallows.
Night sparks and Uncle Bubby
The very best part?
Family. Our people.
How we’ve allowed so many miles to separate us, I’ll never know.
But my kids know their family. They just know–you can tell.
The first night my siblings and I all spent the night together last week, the huddle just sort of happened on its own. It started with a discussion on politics and then led into a passionate conversation on religion and ethics and people and family–hours ticking away while we talked deep into the night–blankets spread across the floor, snacks sprawled across tables. Until someone mentioned, “Is it light outside?” And, horrified, we realized kids would soon be waking up and our chance at sleep was gone. So we made coffee and welcomed the sunrise together on the dock, promising to change shifts for sleep that day. The following six hours were hell. Hell, I tell you. I’ve never been so tired in all my life. But that conversation? Those hours spent together? Absolutely worth it, and I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
Besides, grown cousins are so awesome at helping keep kids entertained.
That’s the thing about this Michigan. It goes behind his good looks and his earthy cologne and his nightly serenades. He’s got heart. He’s got my family.
And now he has a nice stack of summer memories for my kids too.
So happy to have the opportunity to come home.
And grateful to go home too. We miss the daddy.
Good night from the beloved home state–where summer is magic.




















































Dash’s chubbs are scrumptious!
I love your Michigan as a man metaphor! I want a hot summer fling with him someday. All your pictures look blissful! Thank you for your beautiful posts!
I. Love. This. Yay for summer!
Let’s be real though, winter in the midwest is an entirely different ballgame!I agree, it’s gorgeous and perfect for about 5 weeks out of the year though 🙂
Such a wonderful post. We are able to head out for our summer family vacation and I am so excited to make wonderful memories for my little one with family and cousins.
Just amazing! Nothing, and I mean nothing, better than family in summertime! Well done!
Ahhhhhh……I think I just fell for Michigan. Love this post!
This was worth the wait…I didn’t want it to end. What beautiful memories. So, when you said “How we allowed so many miles to separate us, I’ll never know”, made me wonder myself. Every time I entertained the thought of moving to a warm climate, the thought of leaving my family quickly pulled the reins on that idea. I couldn’t imagine leaving my sister, my brother, my nephews. Sistah, you have balls! And the best of both worlds, I might add~a home to go to & a home to go back to. Equally perfect in their own way.
That picture of Nella in her swimsuit with her hand on her hip? Oh, my…priceless!
Just love this post. 🙂
Perfect photos! Love everything about that beautiful place. SO glad you had a good time!
Oh Kelle, Michigan looks like the perfect spot to unplug and re-charge. I love how you inspire me to make the most of my one wild and precious life. Thank you!
Wendy
Jai lai! Thanks to Mad Men I know what that is 😉
Lindsey
The Accidental Wallflower
i felt like i was there… one of my favorite posts from you, by far.
perfection, Kelle!
Beautiful. Simply wonderful.
A reminder not just to live special times, but deliberately make them into memories.
Thank you!
Ali in Switz.
Oh my, that bonneted swimsuit is adorable on Nella! Brooklyn is adorable, she seems like the dream cousin for the kids. What a wonderful trip!
i hate the second day back home the most. that’s when i’m losing the scent of my vacation on my stuff, and trying to actually shift into a normal day. it’s the worst. but i guess vacation’s still worth it.
michigan looks so quiet and blissful. and your photos are amazing! your kids look happy + hilarious.
so sweet
What beautiful memories you’ve created for the littles. I would have missed sharing all of that with my husband and don’t think I could have stayed away that long. Hopefully Brett will have recuperated and can join you for the next adventure. Bliss Cottage looks heavenly!
Totally and thoroughly enjoyed this post.
I too loved the metaphor.
Gorgeous babies and your pictures were divine.
Safe travels home.
Thank you for sharing this.
So glad you got to come home!
Michigan summers are next to none. We live in the suburbs of Detroit and escape the city nearly every weekend in the summer. My three little girls get to experience the mighty Mackinac for the fourth of July and I am counting the minutes until we leave!
Awesome post! LOVE the swimsuit and bonnet on Nella. Felt like I was watching a movie! And my godness Kelly how in the world did you loose your baby weight so fast?? You’d never know you have a newborn! You go girl!
once again you make us Michigan loving Michiganders proud. Love the metaphor 🙂 Glad you were able to make so many memories with your kids in your time here. You make me want to escape to Lake Michigan this weekend!
You make me want to take more photos! Thanks for the beautiful inspiration to appreciate our summers here in Canada, however winter may bring us to our knees! (With blizzards in April or May, no less!). http://joelauraryankiana.blogspot.ca
Ok, I need to book a summer vacation – STAT. The pictures and the oh-so-true statements about making memories – all so lovely and reminiscent of the beautiful days spent on my family vacations as a kid. You have an amazing & beautiful family. Thanks for sharing! I am officially inspired.
Must. Go. To. Michigan.
Really lovely, Kelle.
Never been to Michigan but your pics and story really make me want to go!
Oh wow, I feel like I was there. Almost. Thanks for sharing your family.
I have been following you “forever” and love your travel through life through your photography and stories about family ! I’m from Ga. and grew up vacationing in N.C. mountains….your trip reminded me so much of those times! My nephew and his family are in N.C. now camping with 2 little girls and making fantastic memories ! I am a proud aunt and can’t wait to hear all about their trip ! Thanks for sharing your family with us !
Your pictures just amaze me as always! 🙂 I used to live in MI, but I want to visit where you lived there! So beautiful and breathtaking! 🙂 Love how you make such wonderful memories for your sweet family! Your girls are precious, and that Dash is just scrumptious!!
This post is SO cozy and full of love. Your pictures always tell such a beautiful story.
While I’m sure you could make memories like this in many places, there’s something special about Michigan, isn’t there? I think its something about being the perfect weather/temperature for being outside all the time that allows us to slow down and just “be” while in Michigan. I have so many memories from family vacations in Michigan as well, and make me really want to go back soon after seeing all of your beautiful pictures.
Wow! Such a beautiful post. I loved it! The photo of your Dad and the three kids is such a treasure. Happy Summer!
We’re looking forward to heading up north soon, too…love that you were able to do so much while you were here. I have really good memories of summers at my Grandpa’s house on Houghton Lake; hoping to create memories like those for our daughter, too!
That Michigan is a beauty. It has captured my heart for twenty years. ❤❤❤One month until we are reunited!
Oh my. The old boyfriend metaphor is perfect! Love it. Does that mean I married him?! Lol! Love you and miss you tons.
Makes me want to move to Michigan. Also makes me excited for the road trip I’m taking with my family this summer to my childhood home, Nebraska. An even less glamorous state than Michigan, but man…the memories. We moved to Colorado when I got a little older, and l love Colorado too but life was more complicated there. The golden years of my childhood are in Nebraska and I’m so glad I get to take my kids there and share it with them. Good stuff Kelle.
This Alabama Chick wants to vaca in Michigan! My Mom and Dad visited Mackinac Island several years ago, and fell in love with the place. Michigan is on my list of Places I NEED to VISIT. Beautiful, beautiful post.
I die! Your description of Michigan as a man was hilarious and awesome! Blessed in the lakes department? Awesome!
It reminds me of how I feel when coming home to Washington for the summer after spending the year in rural Alaska. I love Alaska, but Washington is pretty sweet, too.
Thank you for sharing. You so inspire me to do summer right!
You make me love my home state of Michigan so much! Can’t wait for my escape to northern Michigan next weekend!
Dear Kelly
I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and I can’t really tell you why I’m commenting today and not any other day, but I just felt like telling you my thoughts today.
I stumbled upon your blog on accident, someone in a forum I don’t even remember told me about a mum with a Down-Syndrom-Baby. I don’t know why I did, being no mum (yet, but hopefully in the future) and not reading blogs usually but I clicked on the link and landed on Nella’s birth story. And I had tears in my eyes while reading it – if you knew me, you would know that I rarely cry.
After reading Nella’s birth story I tried to catch up from the beginning. I still haven’t finished this yet, but I realized more and more, that you’re not “the mum of a baby with Down-Syndrom”. You’re a mum. A wonderful, loving mum with three perfect children. I love the way you write and your wonderful photographs.
Still, you’ve changed the way I think about people (and especially babys) with disabilities. And I wanted to tell you that. This may not have been your first intention, but for me, who never had much contact to people with disabilities, you changed a lot of things. How could someone say, that Nella’s not happy the way she is? She’s perfect. And I will always think of that.
Thank you for sharing all those moments with me
Greetings from Germany
Sandra
Beautiful photos Kelle…amazing memories!! You have created such an incredible chapter in their storybook. Again, thank you for sharing bits and pieces of your life with us here. It is truly inspirational in the sense that we all need to “clean the shelves” in our home to make room for “peace an simplicity and family…”
We are currently packing up our home of 13 years. A home that welcomed our two baby boys and holds so many happy memories. Starting a new chapter in our storybook. Scary and exciting all at once. I find simplicity here in your words and I hope to bring that into this huge change in our lives.
Happy summer memory making to you and your family.
Monique
PS your photos remind me of our happy summer place in British Colombia, Canada…we will be there in 6 weeks…can hardly wait!!!
Love. I saw your post about Makinac and had to google it. Last year we moved from Montreal to London, Ontario (which is an hour from the Michigan border) and I am already planning a trip up there next summer, thanks to you. Coincidentally my neighbor mentioned Makinac the other day, and I knew what she was talking about! She said I must go, and I also must check out Traverse City & area..so we will, but first things first..this summer we will head back west to our roots in Alberta to visit family & friends!! Love your blog!
Just when I thought I couldn’t miss my home state of Missouri more. Very similar and beautiful. As usual, this is a beautiful moving post. I can feel summer in my bones now. Even if my California summers are slightly different. Safe travels home to Daddy!
Nicole
http://www.identityofmylove.blogspot.com
So, so beautiful in so many ways! 🙂
I’m originally from Michigan as well (living in Washington DC now) and we travel back to visit in another 10 days and we can’t wait for our children to get to know how wonderful it is there. Northern Michigan is truly magical.
i sparkler heart it!
How completely blessed you are to be able to head to Michigan for a few weeks and just be with your family. As much as you are all missing Brett, your children’s memory buckets are filled to the brim. You are right. They won’t ever forget these moments. Thanks for sharing your moments with us and reminding us to be filling our children’s and our own memory buckets as well. Safe travels home Kelle!
So, the ex-boyfriend metaphor was pretty genius. I have to say. And how adorable does Lainey look in a sweater? A SWEATER! Doesn’t happen very often.
That picture of all three of your kids with grandpa (?) on the dock is too precious. I’m probably going to come across the country and crash this party next year.
Kidding, but it looks like heaven.
Wonderful memories…. beautiful photos ~ would love sitting around the campfire with y’all.
xo
This made me smile 🙂
Got goosebumps reading this. Might be one of my favorite posts of yours ever, besides the fact that it makes me insanely jealous of all the family and love and dream vacationing you have. 😉
Seriously though, this is quintessential perfection to me. My dream trip come true. I love that you share it with us because while it makes me jealous, it also makes me oh so happy. And I love seeing you and your kids in such a fantastically joyous place.
no matter how old we get… cant wait to see all my cousins next month! all of us coming in from around the country — name something better, i dare you! 🙂
So happy for you. What a great trip. I wish every single person on the planet were as lucky. Phyl
So, so beautiful – makes me so, so jealous! I know people who used to go to Mackinack every summer, and they spoke of the exact same qualities you do…I SO have to get there! Bliss personified, indeed!
Lovely photos – in fact, lovely doesn’t even begin to describe what I really think of them. You’re gifted with a camera, that is for sure!
Is there a story behind that absolutely wonderful quilt in the fourth-to-last photo, the one Dash is lying on in the bedroom that says “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep” on the wall next to him? It’s terrific, and I’m thinking there might be some family story behind it that I’d love to hear about…If not, it’s still terrific!
What an amazing blog post! I feel the exact same way about Northern Minnesota. It has grown on me over the years, and now I love watching my kids vacation there. It’s really one of my favorite places. Thanks for sharing this with us!!
Shelly
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH!!!
LOVE this post. We leave in 16 days for our cottage in Muskoka. Can’t wait!
ps Dash is deliscious : )
I just had to tell you that I don’t have an IG account but just saw that photo of Lainey wearing Geneva’s hat walking through the airport. She looks so darn cute and proud wearing that hat and pulling her little suitcase. AND Poppa’s story about the hat was icing on the cake! Have a safe flight.
oh Kelly…. I couldn’t wait for the wrap. It was worth the wait. Sure wish I had a place that beautiful to call home. You are blessed!
Sounds lovely, Kelly, I’m glad you had such a special time!
Utterly lovely!! Sounds and looks magical!!
I love your posts about Michigan. I’ve recently moved out of state too and I feel the same way about it. It is a magical place!
so different than what we’ve had in MN so far this year.. we’ve had a few of these days but not a lot ! Glad to hear and see that you had wonderful midwest weather while you were in MI! 🙂
Stunning photos! Beautiful post, and even more beautiful memories for your girls. What a gorgeous home state you have. Mackinac Island and those Michigan woods are now on my bucket list, thanks to you.
My word. Complete and utter magic. I hope the magic continues when you return home-I have a feeling it will.
xo
lynn
YOU ARE THE COOLEST!!!! Check out Saugatuck, MI on your way back home!!!
love this post! beautiful pictures as always!
You’re a rockstar for traveling alone with the kids. I have so much anxiety over traveling even WITH my husband.
Your photos are breathtaking. Thank you as usual for sharing your deepest, most sentimental moments with us.
– Erin
Kelle….
I love your analogy of Michigan being like bumping into an old boyfriend, and after ten years realizing that he is still attractive!! Love it!! ;-D
Homemade apple pie is easily my very favorite!! Especially when our Mom makes it…. 😉
“I can’t tell you how many times I said, smiling, “My kids. My kids are going to remember this.” All those summer memories I have of riding in the car with my siblings, blowing straw paper spit-wads on the rear view mirror from the backseat; searching Tawas rock shops for polished Petoskey stones; acting out the summer Olympics with my cousins; scouring the Great Lake shores for round pebbles and smooth green lake glass–it’s my kids’ turn now. And I watched them, ridiculously happy, summer satisfied, and I couldn’t have been happier knowing their childhood books are being written.”. That is beautiful, Kelle!! ;-D
–Raelyn
The way you write about your home states makes me want to pick up my family and go visit there RIGHT NOW! This very second! It sounds amazing. 🙂
this is so magical! it actually reminds me of my youth here in ohio. we grew up on a lake so reading this post is like stepping back in time for me.
thanks for sharing!
xo
As a fellow Michigan summer on the lake girl, to now Californian, your post hit home. We usually head back to the mitten every summer to enjoy the lakes, but since I am 8 months pregnant we won’t be able to make it this year. And reading your post, made me tear up, at the thought of knowing exactly what I will be missing and wishing for this summer. Thank you for sharing, I felt like I was there!
I saw you and your family at Nino’s Salvaggio’s yesterday. Isn’t that one of the greatest stores?! Enjoy the rest of your stay in MI. 🙂
Just perfect. All of it.
x
http://claireeverafter.com/
I’ve said it before, but you just have a way of putting everything that needs to be said into such wonderful words! Love all these pictures! Especially the ones of Lainey looking at her big cousins like they are the greatest in the world!
Perfect summer jam packed into two weeks. A silly question but what does the bottom of the lake feel like? Muddy or is it stones?
You know I love the dogs. But being a botanist the trees caught my attention too. Amazing country. I can’t believe I was so dismissive of travelling to th USA, now it’s right up there. One day.
We just got back to the south from the Upper Peninsula, lots of family and all, and you described it perfectly! We took a day trip to Mackinac too 🙂
“His Lakes” Bahahaha!!! You outdid yourself with that one. Awesome!!!
Kelle – You inspire me to be a better person. Your words and pictures move me. Thank you.
This post makes me so excited for the future! I can’t wait to have another baby or two added to our little family of three going on big adventures that do not require Mommo presenting at a conference!
Omigosh Kelle, I love this post. I completely know what you mean about that home-state ex-boyfriend phenomenon. I grew up in New Hampshire and didn’t appreciate it AT ALL. Now, when we go back (for family vacations in cabins on breathtakingly beautiful lakes) I can’t stop gawking at and commenting on its beauty, its smell, its old houses and dirt roads and pine trees. Its PERFECTION for summer days with little ones, and late nights with our otherwise widely-dispersed people, learning more about each other now that we’re grown.
So glad you had such a wonderful time! Makes me want vacation right. now.
xo Alt-Mama (.com)
Picked the WRONG day to read this!! My family is from Michigan, too, and I have SOOO many wonderful memories of summers there. I recently decided to move halfway across the country from my family and I am excited, but I know I will miss my family and the midwest. Your post was so lovely…glad you had fun 🙂
Great post! What a fun vacation!
Hi Kelle!
I’m used to read your blog when I’m going to sleep, and I read older posts also. The other night, after reading this post I found one from a long time ago, just after Nella was born. And you talked about Holland, it’s one of the first things you find after the big news that your child has DS. I couldn’t agree more with you about the word “never”. I was really… I don’t know how to say… frustrated that nobody think like me regarding that. I can say that the pain goes away…
Never thought I’d want to vacation in Michigan but now I feel the need to visit! (hope he’s as hot as you say he is!)
Love the metaphor. You are such a talented writer!
Sister, you could give Tim Allen a run for his money!!! I felt like I was reading a “Pure Michigan” commercial… except 100 times more inviting and chalked-full of love and amazing memories. Thank you for sharing your wonderful family, your wonderful memories, your wonderful ability to bring words to life on paper with us! You are appreciated and admired. =)
Fabulous Post! Loved it all; your words and photos! Glad you had fun! Back to reality sucks after vacay. . . .
i’m from ohio and have been looking for something exactly like this….can you tell me where exactly this is, or what it’s called…i will definitely go and take my kids…thanks…..great post! jodi
As always so beautifully written. You’ve captured those memories so beautifully, you hardly need the pics!! Reminder of how good it is to get away and gain perspective and just recoup even if there is a sleepless night included in there 🙂
As always so beautifully written. You’ve captured those memories so beautifully, you hardly need the pics!! Reminder of how good it is to get away and gain perspective and just recoup even if there is a sleepless night included in there 🙂
LOVE it! I am an Ohio girl who loves Michigan! As a child we used to travel to Traverse City in the winter to snowmobile and Mackinac in the summer. I seriously wish we could live there. I love the climate, the scenery, the activities, all of it. Last year we finally ventured up to the UP and wow! Those Pure Michigan commercials are no joke, the place i heavenly!
What a yummy vacation!! The pix make me feel like I am there… wish I were!
LJ’s Funtastic Summer Bucket List:
1) Move into our FIRST home!
2) Make a homemade pizza
3) Catch crabs down by the pier
4) Fly a huge kite at the park
5) Take our toddler to the bright, colorful, refreshing splash pad and take some AWESOME summer photos 🙂
Summer is such a breath of fresh air! It’s nice to slow down every now and then 🙂
Our bucket list:
* camping
* fireworks
* beach date with the cousins.
Would love to win the red bathing suit!
Actually, my bucket list is created as I go a long by doing things that are new to me or going to places that I have never been! I always want my husband, 3 children, and/or my 4 grandsons to experience a new event with me.
Off the top of my head…..II would like to visit Key West. Therefore, the bathing suit would come in handy!
July the 3rd through the 16th my husband and I will be traveling to Orlando to take care of our beloved 2 Weimaraner Grand Dogs while My daughter and Son-in-lar are in Italy.
Although this is not a summertime event, I am looking forward to a Girl’s Weekend Getaway with my 2 daughters in December. We are going to hear Andrea Bocelli live! And, we will be doing a little shopping also!
I enjoy your stories and pictures. You are a very talented writer and I believe from reading your stories that you have a very loving family.
I am a Michigander who moved away to California after college, and after several years away, moved back again. I am now married and have a 5 month old daughter, and cannot imagine ever choosing to separate our families. Still, my time in California tends to haunt me and usually around February I begin to question why on earth I chose to move back to MI. Thank you for the wonderful reminder of the beauty of my home state, and the blessing of being near family!
Where in MI are you from, and at what lake were these photos taken?
Headed to the family cottage that’s been around for generations on Little Traverse Lake this weekend. These photos were just the inspiration I needed to get us through the 18 hour car drive….
I love Northern Michigan and just ended a wonderful 9 day vacation yesterday. Needless to say it has been difficult to get back into the swing of things today, so this post was perfect timing for me! My family and I love everything about our time there. In fact, my husband designs his own line of t-shirts that capture the spirit of life Up North at Michigan-nightlife.com. Thanks for sharing your beautiful photos!