Enjoying the Small Things

Enjoying the Small Things

The Biking Family

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This post is sponsored by Backcountry. 

This past weekend, our family discovered we’ve been missing out big time on something we love–bike riding. It’s not that we haven’t gone bike riding before, but with three growing kids and a hodgepodge garage of their outdoor gear, we never had all the right gear at the right time. Some helmets fit, some didn’t, some bikes were too big, some too small, and Nella had long outgrown our bike trailer meant for babies. So one person would go bike riding–usually me, after the kids went to school now and then, pedaling along our neighborhood sidewalks, inhaling fresh air and giving my legs a break from running.

We upped the biking ante though and straightened out our gear situation with Backcountry last week, checking off all the necessary equipment (helmets that fit–check!, the most perfect bike trailer–check!), allowing us to turn biking into a family activity rather than a single sport. Backcountry is dedicated to helping people pursue adventures outside, and they have everything you need to do it from major gear (skiing, camping, kayaking, biking–ALL the activities!) to packs and apparel.

As fate would have it, when we were ready for our first family biking adventure, Florida’s first cold front of the season came sweeping in, and it was fall perfection.

We trailed as a family along neighborhood streets, stopping at the lake for snacks (don’t worry–no gators), pointing out front doors we loved on houses we passed, and agreeing to bike further than we intended because everyone was so happy.

(These Bern bike helmets! The kids love them–snug, comfortable and cute. I love all the styles and colors available.)

Lainey now wants to know if we can do this every weekend. Watching her lead the trail in front of me–her pig tails swishing side to side as she pedaled–brought back my own memories of biking with my family when I was her age, through Michigan state parks. It was one thing we could all do together, and I don’t know why it took us so long to make it a family activity now.

Brett’s Backcountry button-up, Lainey’s Patagonia shirt

The real game changer is our new bike trailer–easy to pull (only one wheel), and so fun for the kids with its open design.

Nella isn’t ready (or willing–ha) to ride on her own yet, so it’s perfect for her; but all the kids took turns taking single rides in it, and I might as well have taken them to Disney.

Nella’s North Face tee

Later, I took the girls for a long bike ride–6 miles total–to shop and eat lunch as we can bike to a major shopping area without crossing any major intersections. It’s the first time we’ve been able to do this together, and we’re already talking about how next week, we’ll do breakfast, and the week after maybe lunch again–etc., etc., etc. because: Hello, we are now a legit biking family! In fact, I’d like to be referred to as The Biking Family, thank you.

I talk a lot this time of year about huddling indoors and getting cozy, but we are so fortunate to live in a place that makes outdoor adventures so easy, especially this time of year when the weather heads toward its Florida sweet spot, the perfect invitation to get out there and make some memories together.

It felt special doing that this past weekend, and to think some basic gear held us back all this time.

This Fjallraven backpack held everything we needed including my camera, an extra lens and a water bottle (side pocket) for the trip–not to mention the color of dreams…yellow!

Of course, the minute the kids came home from school on Monday, they ran to the garage for their bike helmets, chanting “BIKE RIDE! BIKE RIDE!”

Smith sunglasses, butter-soft pink Alo Yoga pullover.

Working with Backcountry has been such a fun fall partnership for us because it really has ignited in us a desire to get outside and make adventures together–explore our surroundings, try new activities, push ourselves beyond our normal routines. We hiked through Koreshan Park last month, enjoyed a sunset picnic on the beach, and now we’ve rekindled our love of adventuring on wheels. Backcountry’s commitment to helping people make these adventures is evident not only through their products but through their support. They have experts in every activity–former Olympians, athletes and guides with loads of expertise and knowledge–available 24/7 through e-mail, chat and phone to help you find exactly what you need for your next adventure. Plus, a huge selling point for our family–free 2-day shipping on all orders over $50. Even if you’re not looking for major gear, Backcountry has all your favorite brands of stylish apparel and shoes.

…as modeled by our little family huddle.


The girls chose sparkly Vans, I love my Adidas, and Dash’s See Kai Run sneakers slip on in two seconds without a “shoe ordeal meltdown.” I repeat…easy shoes for frustrated 5-year-olds.

Our helmets are hanging in a colorful line-up in the garage now, inviting us to more adventures to which we will enthusiastically answer “Yes!”

Need a few things to get your family adventure ready? Use Code ETST15 for 15% off your first purchase at Backcountry.com!

The Surprising Perks of Giving our Kid a Phone

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First it was the front teeth–the loss of which everyone knows launches a “little kid” into Big Kid, followed by numerous milestones that come far quicker than any of the old ones we used to anticipate. Picture books fold into chapter books, Stride Rites into Doc Martens, play dates into hangouts.

Middle school is, though, by far the biggest change for us, welcoming a whole new world of topics I used to categorize in the “Thank God we don’t have to think about that right now” folder. Thankfully, Brett’s done this before, although I remind him “not with a girl” which puts a little twist in our parenting responsibilities (as would a boy if he had only experienced girls). One of these new “Big Kid” experiences though–introducing a phone–has gone far more smoothly than I anticipated. In fact, it’s brought some unexpected perks.

We gave Lainey her first phone at the beginning of the school year mainly to give her a communication tool being that she was going from the bubble of a well-connected elementary school where I picked her up, dropped her off and always knew where she was and who she was interacting with, to a large middle school and, for the first time, a bus ride to and from school. It felt a little bit like opening Pandora’s Box because I’m well aware of the problems phones can create from safety issues to distraction and less connecting with the real world, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised how great this new milestone has gone. A few observations:

Be a Responsible Parent
We properly prepped for this transition. You wouldn’t hand over keys to a new car to your kid without driver education, ground rules and continued communication about how the car is being used. Likewise, we’ve had to do the same about introducing a phone and staying on top of how and when it’s being used. We have a “no social media” rule until we feel it’s appropriate (and thankfully, she has no interest right now), and we use the Our Pact app to manage screen time (recommended to us from my friend Nici–it’s amazing!) Most important, I feel more responsible to model how I use my own phone now that I have a daughter with one, and I’ve been challenged many times to make sure I’m modeling responsible screen use and talking about it frequently with her.

Friend Network
The best perk, by far, has been the connectivity she has with her friends. This is especially great for a shy kid. There are homework help text loops, friend group encouragement threads (this was the sweetest thing to witness the first week of middle school when everyone was helping each other adjust) and lots of FaceTime chats with her best friend who moved to Chicago over the summer. It’s also less pressure on me to have to arrange everything when they want to get together. We continue to talk about important social phone rules–how not to leave anyone out, how tone can’t always be felt through texts, how not to read into silly things like someone not texting back and how everything we put into the universe–including our texts and silly GIFs–represent who we are. And yes, “in real life” connection is ALWAYS the best way to connect with someone. But the phone has been a really great tool for connection with some sweet friends she might otherwise lose touch with in a bigger middle school setting.

A Window to the Future
One thing I didn’t anticipate is how much fun it would be to text my own kid and hear back from her. It’s like getting to see a different side of her–a more grown-up version and a window into the future of the funny things we will tell each other. I love getting texts from her when she’s on the bus, and sometimes she’ll send me something funny or tell me something that might be a little easier to text than say out loud. The other morning, she got on the bus after a hustled morning that didn’t go as I had hoped, and it felt so good to be able to text her while she was on her way to school and tell her that I loved her, knew she’d do great on that test and that we’d do something special when she got home. And, Lord have Mercy, is it ever nice when we split up in Target to text her and tell her to meet me at the checkout rather than search every aisle for 20 minutes until I find her.

Family Connection
As soon as my family found out Lainey had her own phone, they all wanted her number. She always knew cousins and aunts and uncles loved her, but it’s so nice for her to have her own way of hearing from them. My family is so great at rallying–texting good luck on test days, sending pictures to stay connected, reaching out simply to say I love you. I’ve done the same for my nieces and cousins and love staying connected with them through text threads; it’s so nice to have Lainey join the club.

This new milestone is definitely a learning opportunity, but one we take great responsibility for. Have you introduced a phone to your kids yet? Learned anything important? Regrets, lessons learned? Have a great phone resource or screen time story to share? Do tell!

Harry Potter Party: Polyjuice Potion (and Michigan Leaves!)

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Calling all Potterheads!

Last year, we added a Harry Potter family movie night to our October traditions, and it quickly became a favorite–one my kids have been asking about since summer ended. I admit, the Honeydukes candy bar is probably the selling point, but whatever the case, we are looking forward to our movie night this weekend as I squeeze melted chocolate into slug molds and dig up our witch hats from last year to get ready. I found cute apothecary jars at Target (Spritz brand, in the party aisles) that I thought would make an adorable addition to our tradition this year, so we are filling them with Polyjuice Potion and attempting to turn Brett into Bradley Cooper this weekend. Not really, but I have Dash believing that it might possibly transform me into a toad if we achieve the right potency. It will all depend on how much bat blood I can extract from now until tomorrow evening.

Want to join in on some Harry Potter fun this weekend? You can print our Polyjuice Potion Labels Here. Adhere them to some jars or bottles (Michael’s has flasks and beakers) and mix up your potion of choice. We mixed equal parts Simply Limeade and club soda and spooned in a tablespoon of lime sherbet (gives it a bubbly foam on the top). For more magical effect, drop in a small chunk of dry ice, and your potion will bubble and fog like a true wizard’s.

As for the rest of the evening, keep it as simple as you’d like. We draw Potter scars on our forehead, make a fire, hang some “suspended candles” (I skip the toilet paper rolls and just roll cardstock paper around the tealights) and have a Honeydukes intermission.

But seriously, how fun are holidays?!

And in other festive October news, our box of leaves arrived yesterday from Michigan.

My cousin has shipped us a box every year for twelve years now, and thanks to her thoughtfulness, my kids have never missed a fall experiencing what I loved as a kid.

Several on Instagram have asked how she ships them. After the first few years attempting the best way to keep them fresh, she tried vacuum packing them, and it works perfectly. She gathers them during peak colors (literally hand picks every single leaf, and there are soooooo many!), fills a large vacuum seal bag and then sucks all the air out of it, seals it and ships it immediately. When we receive them, they’re as fresh and colorful as if we picked them off the trees ourselves. And with the vacuum bag, it’s always so fascinating to see how small it looks when it arrives but expands to the largest pile of leaves when we open them and let them loose.

They smell absolutely delicious. Just like home.

Loving this season and looking forward to the weekend!